Narcissism

Yes, you should ignore him or anybody who is abusive. The truth is: nobody is perfect and sometimes we need people to teach us a lesson. Ignoring him is the best thing you could do for him and for YOU. If he really loves you, he will eventually realize he made a mistake but this would only happen if you ignore him long enough, and this means, ignoring his first attempts to contact you, it is hard but at the end it is worth it. Good luck =)

What makes a person sociopathic is a long and hard question to answer. In truth, there probably isn't a correct answer. There are some theories, which I will outline, briefly, here. But one must remember psychoanalytic theories are difficult, if not impossible, to prove completely via scientific method. The reason for this is that, unlike many chemicals, personality is mutable and difficult to define. The way mental illnesses affect people is also quite diverse. In each individual a mental illness most likely will run a course different from that in the next individual. And personality disorders, such as antisocial personality, can range over a broad spectrum when considering its similarities and differences in different people.

The most commonly accepted predeterminant of sociopathy would be a grave degree of early parental neglect. If anything, this seems to be the most diagnostic factor in forming antisocial personality. A person, even an animal, needs some form of just post-natal bonding with another person or animal in order to form proper relationships with others as he or she ages. When this is not provided, all h-e-double-toothpicks, as they say, breaks loose. As an aside, it does not matter the race, age or sex of the individual with whom the baby must bond. In the animal kingdom, a duck may bond to a dog, a penguin to a wildebeest. As long as the elder animal is nurturant, the animal does well. In the animal world, this bonding is called imprinting. In the human world, the lack of such bonding results in something called "mental illness."

Other considered factors are problems with the cortex and, possibly, heredity. A theory I find of interest is that very low or very high intelligence may play a role. Risk-taking behavior is more a symptom than a precursor. I am unsure where upon the spectrum would fall impulsivity. Is it a cause of sociopathy? Does the psychopathic personality just gravitate to problems with impulse control? Of course, substance abuse is always mentioned. But sellf-medicating substance use or abuse is a component of all mental illnesses.

As an aside, when people refer to sociopathy, they are referring to one or possibly more of the following. These are different, but largely by degrees. Learning about sociopathy, psychopathy, asocial personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder, disocial personality disorder will further your enlightenment, such as it may be in the darkness, about the others.

An excellent book on this subject is "The Mask of Sanity," by Hervey M. Cleckley, MD. Although it was written in 1941, it is still highly relevant today.

I read this (linked) article and agree with the premise that sociopaths are born sociopaths. The "third ingredient", essentially being abused (as a child), is what triggers the violent tendencies later in life that make a sociopath be noticed by other people and/or themselves (manifestation).

Not necessarily. Compulsive lying can be a behavior associated with various mental health conditions or personality traits, including but not limited to sociopathy. Sociopathy, also known as antisocial personality disorder, involves a pattern of manipulative and deceitful behavior, among other characteristics. Compulsive lying on its own does not indicate sociopathy.

While virtually everyone may tell a lie at times, for various practical reasons, a pathological liar is a mentally ill person who feels compelled to lie even when the lies do not serve any useful purpose. Such people also may base their entire strategy of survival upon an endless series of lies. Pathological liars typically appear to be very sincere when they are lying, and may be very deceptive. They feel no embarrassment about what they do.

Intelligence can be subjective and difficult to measure definitively. However, Austin's intellectual capabilities may be better understood through observing his critical thinking skills, problem-solving abilities, and knowledge in various subjects.

Unfortunately you will never get correct stats on this. The label "Narcissist" is used too widely and a person could simply be ego-tripping, a perfectionist or a perfect poop, but not necessarily a narcissist. It would take a therapist to label such a person and many people never feel the need to seek out psychological counseling so true stats will never be on this one. this is a deep question. we will never know the answer to that. So many victims cannot speak up and so many abusors, Ns or not fail to seek help. IT does seem pervasive by what i HAVE read on clinical studies that N's seem to DEPEND on having a long term "mate" around with which to feed off. Not a true marriage as in love honor cherish etc. Well, just read some of the posts and better yet articles of actual diagnoses.

Most stats say approx 1% of the population. This likely refers to those who are Malignant Narcisists. To varying degree all humans have some narcissistic traits at some point during their development, however they would not be classified as having NPD.

I spoke with my theropist about this. In her opinion that number is wrong. Theropists rarely see Ns because they rarely go for help because they dont think they need it. She said she would put a zero behind the number at least 10%. They do however see alot of the victims of Ns. she went to a siminar about this very disorder. And were told to be very careful if they take one as a patient because they will do u like everyone else. suck u dry and move to another theropist. some will go as far as accusing theropists of misconduct and so forth so they can be very dangerous to deal with. She and other theropists discussed this and they have gotten calls from people saying they have been diagnosed with this and make appointments and never show up this happens alot.

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A narcissist is always this way. There is no occurrence. The only time they put on a different face is when they need something from you.

In my view someone with npd has fundamental low self esteem . Take my last boyfriend, he left 3 times and each time he came back saying he made a mistake. He would start arguments and blame me. He always referred to me having problems that he is trying to sort out and when I go to him for comfort he would run away. He told me everything I said was wrong starting each sentence with "no" (watch out for that it is a sure sign ). Let me tell you it is a slow chipping away at your confidence. I don't think he meant to do it and that's the sad part you can't stop someone acting in a certain way if they can't understand the way they acted in the first place. It gets worse but for me the worst part was blaming myself for a failed relationship but it's not until you are out and on the road to recovery can you look back and say "wow" that was close!

I suggest reading as much about the disorder as possible, some web sites are better than others most write npd as a lost cause, to truly understand you have to go back persons childhood

Milton Rokeach's three-level model in human behavior includes individual personality (internal factors), interactions with others (interpersonal relations), and participation in societal structures (social systems). Rokeach believed that human behavior can be understood by examining how these three levels interact and influence one another.

you take it and ignore it you laugh it off and agree sarcasticly.. tell him lines such as "what ever" and "suuuuuuure" if you show it dosent bother you he or she will drop it eventualy... DO NOT SINK TO THEIR LEVEL Trust yourself because you know who you are and you're one strong person for leaving this narcissist. I call this "shaking the old apple tree" which means those that choose to believe his lies about you were never your friends in the first place and those that stand by your side are your true friends. Consider it a short-cut in life. Good for you! Keep going girl! Someone once told me, "You know who you are. Walk with your head held high - with dignity." The truth 'always' prevails. If not now - later. Try to trust this universal law. Those who know you - those worthy of your friendship and love - will always know the truth. The rest will eventually, even if you are not privy to it. Going against our instincts to defend can be one of the most difficult tasks before us, but silence can speak far louder than our words. If ever in a situation where you are faced with a "fact" about yourself that is untrue, simply find a few powerful, calm, mature words that will get the truth across, while retaining your dignity and composure. Never forget who you are and walk assuredly in that truth. Best wishes & an end to troubles, AlwaysLearning

Because narcissistic traits are about mind-bending control and game-playing. They've just pushed your buttons! The next time they do this to you say, "You know, you're so right!" Before walking away take a good look at their face. For the first time in a long time they'll be at a loss for words! I know, I've done it! He enjoys gaslighting to make you think you are crazy. Very common with these types. His main goal is most likely is to play with your mind and sit and watch the results like the proud owner of a new prize.

I would say that if it helps YOU, go ahead and feel sorry for them. Let me explain: First, I am not an expert by any means. If this is difficult for you please get some counseling.I will tell you what has helped me though, with the help of my counselor. A narcissist should not be excused from their bad behavior. I truly believe that they know they are treating you bad. They likely don't care because they are so consumed with themselves and their own need for validation. The thing that made the difference to me was knowing that a narcissist doesn't care because he is INCAPABLE of it. They just don't know how. This is very tragic for them. Just think! They will likely never be able to feel love the way you or I are able. They are at a huge disadvantage in almost every aspect of their lives. They are never happy and they live in a constant state of inner turmoil. I read somewhere, "How can you hate a snake for being a snake?" Same with a narcissist. It is what it is and we can't change it. We can feel sorry for them enough to know that we can't blame ourselves. If this helps you accept and move on, go ahead and feel sorry for them. Just please don't stay with them! No amount of pity will change them. Good luck. You are not alone! Don't feel sorry for him, but learn to forgive. I have on my fridge, "If you can't forgive the person then they still have control of you." Narcissists feel little to no remorse and they will just jump from one prey to the other. They are hunters without knowing it. No counseling will help them because they feel they know more and are more highly intelligent than most people. Good luck I've been feeling sorry for my ex-narcissist for quite awhile now, even though he was the one who dumped me after I found out he was cheating on me with a friend -- who was engaged to someone else, by the way. A real sad mess for everyone involved...But, I'd always remember his sad sad stories of his childhood and forgive him for hurting me so much because he didn't know any better and someone who went thru such traumatic events couldn't possibly be expected to rise above that. Well -- and maybe this will help you, too-- after 8 months of crying over him, therapy, medication, and still feeling bad over his sad childhood, I was given a gift that I believe was no coincidence: I flew on an airplane with someone from his family, who shockingly revealed to me that these sad stories were, in fact, lies. Everything I believed about this guy -- lies. Everything that reeled me in, with my big heart and huge capacity for love -- lies. He's a narcissist, which I only realized after he so ruthlessly discarded me, and that's what they do -- lie to evoke sympathy, which equals Narcissistic Supply. So, think about all of those things about yours that make you sad, and remember my story...

The psychological impact would probably be the same as it would on any other person. Why anyone would choose to take such pointless and cruel action is certainly questionable. The perpetrator could be viewed by some as having serious emotional problems also, and many would not consider that justifiable behavior. The person doing the destruction is the mother of the N, she feels the stuff is not worth it, she too is a Narcissist. Sometimes the memory of a person is too much misery. When a person brings anguish into the lives of others a common reaction is to avoid that source of pain. When my ex left, I removed everything (including pictures of him) out of our place and I dont regret it. I want nothing to do with him so why keep his pics anywhere?

They have minds like steel traps, but they don't communicate well because they don't care about the other person's opinions or feelings and it's all about them. They put themselves on such a high level (in their own minds) that they feel only their opinions count. They are incapable of giving an opinion, listening to someone else's opinion and meshing the two together to come out with a better resolve to any problem. Marcy A narcissist is very good at superficial communication in that the 'false self' continually boosts itself. This can result in very amusing, and entertaining conversation with the narcissist enjoying 'playing' with the other person until he gets the response he wants. If the person involved in communicating demands true feelings or emotions, then conversation from the narcissist abruptly stops. Another aspect is the power that a narcissist can project through unconcious communication. They are very adept at manipulating the other person's emotions and subconciously this too can become a game for the narcissist with the aim being to elicit emotion from the other person. As long as this does not go too far and both parties are happy with this type of communication, I feel that it is not a problem. The problem often is that the narcissist does not know when to stop and the other person is 'sucked dry' before they realise what is happening.

they will morph themselves into anything they think you want to see them as to extract something from you for themselves Most likely to puff themselves up in your eyes to get the adoration they want or, if they're really nasty pieces of work, to con you to get whatever it is that they want from you. And if they're really twisted, there's always "duping delight" to consider. Psychopathic individuals who are, I believe, narcissistic in the extreme are said to get their jollies just pulling the wool over another person's eyes. Because they have such warped minds.

It is important to establish boundaries with your wife, seek individual therapy to cope with the challenges of being in a relationship with a narcissist, and consider couples therapy to improve communication and address issues in the marriage. Prioritizing self-care and seeking support from loved ones can also help you navigate this difficult situation.

She won't "commit" to anything -- not the new relationship, anyway. Narcissists have several short term relationships. They can't commit. They can get married. They can have significant others. They just can't commit or have normal relationships. This new one will fail, also. Unfortunately there is now a child involved. Whether she will seek you out again or not depends on the length of this new relationship and how you both left the end of your relationship. My "N" wanted to keep the door open and I basically told him in no uncertain terms that I didn't want to know him anymore and haven't heard from him since. If you're secretly hoping she'll return, don't. You were set free. At some point you'll see that and thank your luck stars for it. If she does contact you, be strong. Its not you she's after. Its your supply. Don't fall for it. Very few narcissists ever get better. ~ T

Narcissists continually test their companions/mates/spouses - "If she knows my true character will she abandon me"? It would be a mistake to attribute this kind of behavior to altruistic motives. From my experience with an N, they would never say that anyone is better than them. It is probably just a trick to get supply out of you, make you feel sorry for him, because believe me, they don't think anyone is better than them. Yes, to manipulate you.

The original theory of chiropractic 100 years ago was that illness occurs due to "subluxations", which was defined as the vertebrae causing impingement of the adjacent nerve roots. Chiropractic manipulations were thought to move the vertebrae back into alignment and reduce the pressure on these nerves, so that the body could then heal itself.

Modern chiropractic is based on the theory that a properly functioning spine and musculoskeletal system in general is an important part of total health and well-being. Joints in the spine (and others) are meant to move. When joints are not moving properly then pain and loss of function can result. Chiropractors will use joint manipulations to induce proper motion back into a joint and thus relieve pain and improve function.

More technically, chiropractic scientists theorize that joint manipulation affects afferent stimuli, reducing or eliminating gamma system overflow or reducing the proprioceptive input modulating gamma system function. It has been suggested that this temporary interruption in myoelectrical activity has a persistent therapeutic effect on the periarticular muscle.

Tell her how you feel . Or you start being self centered just to bother her, then when she gets annoyed and wants you to stop, say this," I will stop being selfish id you stop being selfish." That usually works most of the time. And if that doesn't work pray or tell your parents.

for me the best way to deal with a self centered sister is killing her with the goodness of your conscience. it goes like this whenever she does selfishness to you remain good to her show her how vulnerable you are to her towards her attitude to you and in latter part she'll realised how damn she is for being selfish to you just do good stuff and good things will return that's it..