Abusive Relationships and Domestic Violence

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• There are no 100% signs that a person is lying, but here are a few possible signs: If you confront the person and they will not look at you directly in the eyes; if their face turns red; if they shuffle from one foot to the other; if they look like they want to take a run out of the room; if they try to convince you that you are the liar or they may slam right out the door.

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Alochol abuse has been discussed til it's nearly dead and you will find if you research it enough that most alocholics believe it's heriderity that causes them to be alocholics. Passed down through a family member who drank and it doesn't necessarly have to be immediate family it could be an aunt or Uncle. Most alochoics that I've talked to and there have been many as I too am an Alocholic believe that our sickness has nothing to do with Culture. For example, some Nationalities of people drink wine with every meal, that doesn't make them alocholics as when they leave the table they don't usually drink anymore. I don't know what your definition of an Alocholic is, but my definition is someone who absolutely craves alochol and it doesn't mean that they have to buy it in a corner store, it could be shoe polish as that contains wood alochol or it could be shaving lotion if the abuser wants to drink bad enough he or she will drink anything that has alchol in it including some cough medicines.

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When you are taking a test and you did not study and you can't answer any of the questions. You become frustrated.

Tell them how you feel, oyu never know, they may feel the same but they just hide it from you because they don't know how you feel

actually it doesn't matter i would just choos a place that has food water and shelter insted of being greety

There are mean people in every country. I'm sure there are mean people in Mexico too. Just like there are here in the U.S. Every country has mean and nice people. Some more than others.

YouÊ may not be able to put your abuser away for life.Ê You do need to protecct yourself and file the appropiate police reports, to be sure that charges are being filed and he or she can face prosecution for the acts of abuse.

It depends... Is it yourself or someone else you are referring to? Physical abuse can be very apparent. Mental abuse on the other hand is harder to recognize. It's all in how it effects you personally. You can get into a verbal fight with someone and if there words effect you in such a manner where emotional pain or suffering occurs, without and real motive or backing behind it,it is definitely a sign of mental abuse.

A spouse cannot be forced to testify against the other regardless of the issue. However, not doing so might jeopardize the prosecutor's case against the individual who is facing the charges.

Well Depends if it is a regular occurence, and where you live. If it is regularly happening, and you are in the UK, it is illegal if it leaves marks, and if you are worried, telling a teacher is a good idea USA - No idea

I don't asume that there is a psychological reason that some do talk louder. I myself happen to be one of those people and it seems my sister is that way also,my two brothers are not. It could be do to the pitch of the voice as I am a alto. My sister and I were always being told to tone it down by my mother and grandmother as kids.

i would have no clue, because i don't know you, but i assume because you might be kind of annoying at times. different. haha

Unless you provoke him to hit you (which still isn't ok) then you should leave him. Theres no excuse for anyone hitting you, theres no disease out there that 'forces' them to hit you. The old saying "if you love something let it go" would be the best time to act it out.

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Darling, there is no excuse in the world for a man to hit a woman, unless the woman is buffed, a tomboy, tattooed, and kicks her husbands butt as well.

If he doesnt listen to reason if you explain to him that you are NOT to be hit.. that you love him, but cant take it anymore, the answer is simple, ask your friends, im sure they would back you up, then if you really want to go all the way, get a divorce, and a restraining order.

don't tell your friends because they willl just tell u want u want to hear and that ain't good but yeah if your getting sick of it and want to leave then do it its not worth it

Its odd but my mother was abusive but also showed some love. I noticed the problem after she lost the one child she wanted the most, a girl. She had three sons and always wanted to have a girl. She became cold after loosing the girl due to it being premature birth, the lungs collapsed I was told by my father. My mother was abusive toward me in many ways and took sides with my youngest sibling. I later found out she was abused by her own brother. My most horrific memory of her was around the age of five when it first started. I spilled milk while eating cookies at the dinner table and she became enraged at cleaning it up and made me extremely nervous by her behavior. I shook like a leaf and caused me to spill it again out of fright. Then she grasped me by the upper arm and escorted outside the front door into cold night and locked the door so I couldn't get in. I was frightened and scared and yelled and screamed(wanting my mothers love) and pounded the door to be let in. Sometime when by and I remembered crying and being frightened, when she opened the door she looked down at me and was laughing as though it was funny. I was hurt by her action and never trusted her after that day. I grew up not loving or feeling much love from her. When she was on her death bed I came to see her and she was distraught when I was there, I cried and told her I loved her before she passed away. I think she loved me but didn't show it often. This created issues, I never married for fear of being abusive myself toward a child and also feared a mother/wife because I was attracted to women who had similar characteristics of my own mother.

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Negative people can really affect us if we react to them negatively. The key to dealing with negative people is to continue being positive and pleasant no matter how negative they get. If you do this you will not be affected by their negativity and they will either continue in their negativity alone, or realize they don't have to be that way.

"How people treat you is their karma. How you react is yours"

It is hard not to be affected by negative people. If it is at all possible, try to avoid the negative encounters from the start. If you are forced to deal with negative people, (perhaps you work in customer service), you have several options: Ignore the negativity, try to deal with the root problems causing the negativity, or deflect the negativity.

1. Ignoring the negativity. Sometimes this will help the situation, if the person feels that being negative is not helping their situation. However, depending on how it is done, it can also make things worse, as some people will feel that you are not sympathetic to their situation, before they realize that the negativity is not helping them.

2. If it is at all possible to deal with the root problems causing the negativity, it may well be worth it. Note, that this takes a lot more time than the other techniques, and if you don't have to deal with the person on a regular basis, it may not be worth it. Also, you may not necessarily have the type of relationship where you can deal with the root cause of that person's problems.

3. Deflect the negativity. Quite often, negative people can fixated on a certain aspect of life and downward spiral into negativity. If you can deflect their thoughts to a neutral or more positive topic, they may be able to avoid the downwards negativity spiral.

4. Another dealing method is humour. For example, exaggerating the negativity of a situation may help a person think, 'well it's not that bad.' Be careful with this approach as well, as some people might think you are mocking them. If they take offense, apologize immediately and strongly. Hopefully, the other person will be able to see the humour in the situation and cast aside their negativity.

The key to whatever you try is to maintain a positive attitude and not get drawn down! We all have to deal with negative people sometimes, so hopefully this advice will help deal with these situations!

It means someone who gets a kick out of hurting you. This kind of behavior does NOT have to be physical. I had a spouse who had a serious sadistic streak--and who almost never laid a hand on me, and we were together more than a decade. What he did was lie and trick me. This was, perhaps, the thing he most enjoyed doing in life. A sadistic streak could be no more physical than that. It does not mean it is not harmful to the person upon whom the sadism is being taken out.

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