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Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
8,665 Questions
What is the divorce rate in Canada?
- As of 2010 there were 33,739,900 people and in 2010 - 2011, 2.46 per 1,000 divorces. The statistics prove that divorce is lowering.
Because they no longer like each other and dont want to be married any more
People get devorsed because they do not get along as well as they did before and they do not feel the love for each other.
What does federalism look like?
Federalism is a system of government where power is shared between parts of a nation and the nation's government. Each part will have its own semi-autonomous government with authority over a wide array of issues while still having to maintain the national government's standards and with national government oversight.
you'll never be happy with this man and will only get your heart broken again.. have respect for yourself, some may say you will be lonely but id rather be on my own than my self esteem be eroded at every day of that unhealthy relationship
That is up to you, if you want your ex more than the new girl then let her down nicely and go with your ex, but if you are done with your ex and want to continue your relationship with the new girl then kindly tell your ex that you have moved on and are now with someone else. Good Luck. Follow your Heart.
How do you be mean to your ex?
Holding on to resentment and anger toward another will only hurt one person; "You!" This anger will continue to eat at you, until you let it go. It can make you sick both mentally, and physically. It is not easy at times, however you must let it go, even if it is for your own sake. Set yourself free, and release it. Nothing is going to bring the past back, so cut the rope and let it slide. You will feel a ton of pressure being released , and your life will be that much better. If you do not let it go, I can guarantee you, it will make you sick. Now you can do this! Free yourself!
What does your ex being mean to you after a break-up mean?
It means he is upset over the breakup still and that is usually how they deal with it by being a jerk. Also it depends on the reason for the break up and who broke up with whom - he may genuinely be upset with you and have sore feelings towards you.
How can I decide whether this young man is the right one for me or not?
- Be patient and take the relationship slowly. It takes time to get to know each other. Good communication skills are must so both of you should be able to talk about anything regarding each others feelings such as your hopes and dreams for the future and what your likes and dislikes are in life. You will know if he is the right one if you are patient.
Do more girls break up with guys or more guys break up with girls?
girls because they tend to fall for other people more and get mad more easily
Can couples break up even if they just had a baby?
Most of the time they break up because of a baby. I know this for a fact. My husband and i almost did because of my daughter Salena. Yes ccuples can break it off but when a child is involed and know its mother/father you will never be truly apart.
If you have a boyfriend and you want to break up with him and you love him so much how do you do it?
- Talk to him and tell him the truth before it's too late. Just tell him how you feel in a way that will make him understand you still love him but can't see the two of you guys together. Remember, guys aren't very good at understanding so tell everything straight out. Try telling him in person so you can see his facial expressions and so you can catch him if he tries to walk away or something. Just be honest because that is all you can do. Never hold in your feelings.
How can you stop loving your exboyfriend babydaddy?
Well you kinda left alot of things wide open! Like why yall aren't together? That's the big one! But honesly we seem to make things worse on ourselfs than they are or have to be! I may be wrong but i believe love doesn't make a mistake! Really just because yall had a baby together doesnt mean yall are meant to be! I don't know the full story but what i do know is if you take a big long hard look at the situation, and face the facts and reality im sure you will see why yall arent toghther! Alot of times we want things or somthing so bad we blind ourselves from the truth of things! But its important that you get him out of your system before you move on with someone else, because you cant make one truley happy while your wishing you were with someone else!!!!!! YOu cant move on to the future with the past wraped around your feet!!!! Hope things work out!!!!!!! PEACE!!
What were the short stories called that told of legend and adventure in the west?
Disney classics tales. The west is not a very old place it's about 400 year les then that the Immigrats came to make it the west. The real stories are from the natives that were here for many more years but numbers have become small and traditional stories are not easy to come by.
yes you have the right to be mad....because that means he likes her again...
i can see why you would be mad, but they were still together for some time. if you two split now, would you not want him to come to your birthday, if you were friends?
Should you feel sorry for your ex-Narcissist who was mean to you and dumped you?
I would say that if it helps YOU, go ahead and feel sorry for them. Let me explain: First, I am not an expert by any means. If this is difficult for you please get some counseling.I will tell you what has helped me though, with the help of my counselor. A narcissist should not be excused from their bad behavior. I truly believe that they know they are treating you bad. They likely don't care because they are so consumed with themselves and their own need for validation. The thing that made the difference to me was knowing that a narcissist doesn't care because he is INCAPABLE of it. They just don't know how. This is very tragic for them. Just think! They will likely never be able to feel love the way you or I are able. They are at a huge disadvantage in almost every aspect of their lives. They are never happy and they live in a constant state of inner turmoil. I read somewhere, "How can you hate a snake for being a snake?" Same with a narcissist. It is what it is and we can't change it. We can feel sorry for them enough to know that we can't blame ourselves. If this helps you accept and move on, go ahead and feel sorry for them. Just please don't stay with them! No amount of pity will change them. Good luck. You are not alone! Don't feel sorry for him, but learn to forgive. I have on my fridge, "If you can't forgive the person then they still have control of you." Narcissists feel little to no remorse and they will just jump from one prey to the other. They are hunters without knowing it. No counseling will help them because they feel they know more and are more highly intelligent than most people. Good luck I've been feeling sorry for my ex-narcissist for quite awhile now, even though he was the one who dumped me after I found out he was cheating on me with a friend -- who was engaged to someone else, by the way. A real sad mess for everyone involved...But, I'd always remember his sad sad stories of his childhood and forgive him for hurting me so much because he didn't know any better and someone who went thru such traumatic events couldn't possibly be expected to rise above that. Well -- and maybe this will help you, too-- after 8 months of crying over him, therapy, medication, and still feeling bad over his sad childhood, I was given a gift that I believe was no coincidence: I flew on an airplane with someone from his family, who shockingly revealed to me that these sad stories were, in fact, lies. Everything I believed about this guy -- lies. Everything that reeled me in, with my big heart and huge capacity for love -- lies. He's a narcissist, which I only realized after he so ruthlessly discarded me, and that's what they do -- lie to evoke sympathy, which equals Narcissistic Supply. So, think about all of those things about yours that make you sad, and remember my story...
Why did he lead you on for two months then say he never loved you?
It's possible that he wasn't able to communicate his true feelings or intentions honestly from the beginning. People may lead others on due to fear of confrontation, inability to set boundaries, or simply because they are unsure of their own emotions. It's important to recognize that his actions are a reflection of his own struggles rather than a reflection of your worth.
What is the Word to describe saying something gently?
diplomatically
politely
lovingly
with concern
delicately
There are some people that love "the chase" (trying to win the other person over) and once they do, it appears the excitement goes right out of the relationship for these people. Your girlfriend sounds like one of these people. Their attitudes really aren't about their relationships, but they are antsy and unsure of who they are and where they want to be in life. They find it hard to settle down and commit to much of anything. Every individual is different and some of us are lucky enough to find that right person and be happy with them. No, we don't always have the answer as to who we really are or what we want in our futures and I think that happens so we keep striving to better ourselves. None of us show the undying affection for each other as we did when we first went together, but it important to show affection. I always like to call it a "circle of life"; we meet and the fireworks explode, we can hardly breath or think of anything else but that person we love. Then we start seeing a lot of each other and things get slightly stale and that's a sign that the first part of the magic has worn off the relationship (normal) and it's time to give each other a little head space. You should go out with your friends every so often and she should do the same with her friends. If we are constantly joined at the hip with our mates with every single thing we do, you bet your relationship will get boring. I always like an air of adventure and mystery in my relationships and my husband and I even after 33 years of marriage still have that. There are no serious, dark secrets we keep from each other and we are true to each other. I just have my things I want to do and so does he. "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." He finds me exciting because he never knows what I'm going to do next, and I love that he gives me the head space and that he goes out with his friends fishing and golfing. It gives both of the opportunity to see other people (friends only) and it's refreshing. Many times we do things together even around the house or sit and discuss world events, etc. Yup, your relationship has become stale and boring. Please don't blame yourself. Communication is so important and just sit down with that girlfriend of yours and discuss this problem with her or, don't discuss it and just go out with your buddies a little more and give her some head space. You don't have to be there for her every waking moment. If you play a little hard to get she'll be all over you again. I think there is still love there, but you need to "pump up the volume." Good luck Marcy
Will Crowfeather and Leafpool still love each other in Sunrise?
Like most people I wish they would but now that leafpool left. I don't think so, But once they are both in StarClan they might. I mean BlueStar and OakHeart did it and so can Leafpool and Crowfeather
-Warriors#1 fan-
-LeafStorm-
I think they will because maybe Leafpool will come back in the end of the fourth apprentice series. Then she would go back to Thunderclan and she will be going to a gathering so maybe her and Crowfeather could talk and then get back together. She would come back like Graystripe did. This is not likely to happen but maybe something like it will.
Leader of Dawnclan aka warriors 1 fan
Dawnstar/Dawnpelt
Why does a woman stay friends with a lover?
A woman may choose to stay friends with a former lover for various reasons, such as valuing the emotional connection they shared, wanting to preserve the friendship element of the relationship, or simply enjoying each other's company despite the romantic aspect not working out. Each situation is unique and individual motivations can vary.
Who was quoted saying the tragedy of life is not that it ends so soon?
The quote "The tragedy of life is not that it ends so soon, but that we wait so long to begin it" is attributed to W. M. Lewis. Lewis was an author and motivational speaker known for his inspiring quotes on life and self-improvement.
What if your friend is totally the opposite of you?
That's fine - if your friends you can teach one another things that the other knows and has interest in - try seeing one anothers sides and showing interest in them being different is good and opposites attract. Something brought you together as friends and only you two can continue to keep it that way. Don't judge them but try and understand.
What if you think your ex was the best sex you'll ever have and noone else will compare?
You need to decide which is most important to you. Whatever was the reason for the divorce needs to be weighted against the "best sex". The passion will eventually subside, but the need for a real, mature relationship is an essential part of life.
Remember what really happened. Be very honest with yourself. See the situation for what it really was. You were very much in love, the sociopath was using you. Yes, using you. They really do not know how to treat people correctly, it simply is not in their mental makeup. They have a disorder. You are very hurt because you care about this person. The sociopath does not care about others. I don't mean to be callous, truly. This is just the way this disease/pathology is
ANSWER:When you love someone, the love never really goes away it just changes. Over time this love for this person can become less overwhelming and then less important and eventually a much less significant memory.There's a joke that goes something like "to get over a man get under another". Well, if you fall in love with someone else you will automatically no longer be in love with the ex, unfortunately you don't have control over the next time you will fall in love again, so you must make do with the time healing solution for now which is no fun but it works somewhat well to the extent that it will reduce and probably even eliminate the pain associated with this feeling of loss. With time you will get used to the feeling of missing the ex. Keep in mind that you might miss him/her more than usual because sociopaths are so good at manipulation that you would end up more affected than in a relationship with someone else. A sociopath can elicit much stronger feelings in you than would happen with a normal person. You might end up being much more infatuated with the sociopath than you would have anyone else who was otherwise equally attractive to you (in looks and in the persona they presented to you). Such that you feel you love this person more than you have loved anyone else even when your logical mind says this should not be the case , that others you have been in relationships with before have treated you much better and deserved your love more. The sociopath is good at manipulating, so you are feeling these feelings as a result of the sociopath's skills. However and remember this: feelings are not reality, they are just feelings, sometimes they correlate with reality sometimes they don't, and a good manipulator can create feelings in you that are unrelated to reality. What's more important about feelings is that they come and go, and although you can't choose which ones come, you can choose to a small extent which ones you hold on to more strongly.
This feeling you have now will pass, eventually. It's tough and you can't believe it now, because you've probably gotten over others much more easily than this one, but this one is different, not in a good way, and that's why you got out of the relationship. The manipulator was so good that he/she has now left you feeling that you can't get over it, but that is just one of the manipulator's tricks. When you think about him/her, change the subject in your mind - think about something else quickly, keep doing this and one day it will be over. I really hope this works because I am going to try it for myself. I too I am trying to get over a sociopath and even though I spotted this personality issue very quickly, it wasn't quickly enough for me to come out unscathed. Good luck, you made it out of the relationship and that's the real victory.
ANSWER:Sociopaths know how to play innocent and from my experience, they target naive and somewhat inexperienced individuals who will succumb easily to their tactics. They get a thrill out of the sense of power and mastery over the person they are with at the moment. Their love is generally need-based. They will date you when they feel loneliness or some other type of need and will keep you around as long as you don't demand any sort of genuine intimacy that comes from truthful communication that may arise from a relational fight. Once you are no longer needed, they immediately turn their attention to a pool of women they already had in mind prior to meeting you. In fact, you were a part of that pool and you are actually no more special than the woman that they have dated before and after. They used the same tactics before you and will continue to do so afterwards, because they get a high from the feeling of respect from the adoration that they receive from their victim.
Don't even feel bad for the sociopaths because of the sob stories that they tell you. When a normal person undergoes a traumatic past, they don't go around talking about it to everyone they know. They only talk about it to a trusted few. Sociopaths announce it to their victims to gain sympathy and when it comes time that you need some sympathy from him, you will never get it. If you were lying on the ground helpless, he would hop over you and run to save his own life. He will not be that guy who helps someone in need unless others are watching or unless there is some kind of visible reward. He believes that as long as he has demonstrated some sort of good works by helping a just cause, his heart is exempt. He feels in this business transaction of having given money to the poor or gone on a volunteer trip that he has fulfilled his karmic transaction. He does not see the importance of personal beliefs, because they are of no use. You can't show off integrity, so what's the point in having it? Purely driven by selfish needs, this is not someone you can ever rely on to be there for you when you fall. In fact, he is a fearful coward. Those who feel love are able to face fears of all sorts on behalf of their lover. Love brings a man to take a bullet for his beloved. That kind of a strength a sociopath can never have. If there is trouble that affects him personally, you can be sure he'll be skipping like a calf to save himself and as long as no one saw it, it's fine. Plus, he will always have an excuse and it will be an external factor that's at fault. The next worse thing that can happen to losing this person you have loved is to having him.
What is the polite way to ask someone to leave?
If it's in a relationship just say were having differences right now and I'm really feeling as if I need my own space and I think we should stop seeing each other. If it someone who has worn out their welcome just say I enjoyed your company and I've given you plenty of time to get yourself together but now it's time for you to leave I understand this may not be good time for you but it is for me and you know if need me call me but you have the rest of the day to get your stuff out. or the end of the week or whatever. You know how to talk to someone so you know what you would like to say but say whatever it takes to get them out sometimes people take your kindness for weakness so don't just say it without authority say it like you mean it if it's just GET OUT!! then say that so just say it It's time for you to go GET OUT!!! Good Luck!!! Politely mention that its getting late or that you have things to do. Mention it twice and if they do not respond say," Im sorry but I have things to do so its been nice talking with you but now its time to leave." Also you can ask them what time it is, that is usually a kind hint to leave.
