Marriage

• Yes, most women are the strongest species between male and female. True they are more romantics than men and far more emotional, but they have a built-in mechanism to survive many traumas in their lives. All women go through one or two (or more) events in their lives where they may lose themselves for a little while because most women tend to put others before themselves and thus, they are hurt when the person they love hurts them. If your husband is still cheating on you then read him the riot act and tell him 'no more' and he either wises up and seeks marriage counseling or another type of counseling or the marriage is over. If you allow him to continue to cheat then you enable his behavior. It is more common than you think where boyfriends or husbands cheat on their partner at least once and women of all ages are almost neck in neck with the men for cheating (not accusing you.) Part of it is immaturity; some men have grown up with a parent or parents that have cheated or, they may have been cheated on once or more by former girlfriends and this leaves this type of man vulnerable where he is afraid of being hurt. No matter what the excuse it is not an excuse to cheat! Communication skills are a must in a marriage where the couple can discuss anything without arguing and coming to an amicable agreement on whatever problem they are dealing with. Your husband has broken the bond of trust in your marriage and it is going to take some time for him to earn your trust and respect again. The good news is, this is a wake up call for women who's husband's cheat but are still in the marriage. Women start to learn they are intelligent and can either further their education; go to work (if they are not working) volunteer; treat themselves to a few new clothes; a new look as far as hairstyle and getting out more with girlfriends (at least once a week) and be more independent rather than sitting at home and denying herself the right to express an interest she may want to pursue in her life. Women may cry over a man that cheats, but, once the crying is over there is nothing worse than the wrath of a woman scorned! Don't get even and drop to his level, but start doing some things you want to do and work on good communication skills with your husband. Although it may feel your marriage will not work many do if you both try hard enough and you start to put yourself first for a change.

Answer You have to realize that he left you for a reason, whatever that reason is only you know. Not only did he leave you, but he's with another woman and you probably feel responsible because now you want him back but it won't be easy to get him back as he's already sharing his life with someone else, however... Men are like fish. Dangle something in front of them that you know they can't resist and you will have a chance of getting him back, but if you go that route whatever it is that you will do to lure him back into your life, you will have to continue with it because if he figures out that you lured him back under false pretenses he's gonna drop you like you are too hot to handle, and you will never get him back. Good luck

You don't because no one can know what another person is thinking. Even if you ask he might not tell you because he wants to keep you around for sex or whatever else he is using you for. Guys are (I am a guy by the way) pretty sneaky that way. I have counseled many girls and they asked pretty much the same question. I gave them the same answer. Guys know how sneaky guys can be and that is why many Dads worry so much about their daughters. That is why the portray Dads on TV as not wanting anyone to touch their "baby." Because guys know that guys can be total rats. Or dogs as many women would put it. Yeah dogs because they pretty much go around an sniff, sniff, sniff and if a woman is willing then so are they. Bottom line? Don't give them any for a long time and if they stick around and are still really nice to you and they aren't fooling around (and you know this for sure) then you probably got yourself a keeper. Many guys find it a challenge if a woman holds out and doesn't give any sex so be careful. Guys like a challenge. You gotta test them and test them hard. If he is worth it and REALLY loves you he will stick it out. That's true love. Hey if he needs to relieve himself he can always call Rosie Palm. LOL

There can be two good reasons why a woman is strong and stubborn. She's either had to come through life on her own steam, or, you haven't been there taking some of the knocks of life along with her. This is one you are going to have to figure out. I get angry myself, as a woman, that men go to work, come home, sit there staring into space, may pop open a beer or have a glass of wine and let a sigh out of them as if God put ALL problems on their very shoulders. Most men never look at their girlfriends or wives and say "Hey, how was your day?" Odd isn't it! Some women not only have to work, they have to come home and cook, clean, look after kids, run the kids here and there, pay bills, etc., and then their husbands actually can't figure out why these women are too tired to have sex. Amazes me every time! I would suggest you sit and talk to your wife. Ask her right out about HER feelings. Sit and really listen! Most men just don't listen and it's the most annoying trait a man has that most woman detest. My attitude is "if you can listen to your boss or clients all day then you can listen and understand what your girlfriend/wife is saying." If you attack your wife on any subject that old trait of self protection is going to come right out and hit you in the face. Just ask her how she feels, what she wants out of life and what she can see for her future. Why don't you (if you can afford it) go on at least a mini holiday (just the two of you) or if you can afford it go somewhere nice for 2 - 3 weeks. Sometimes we just need a rest and get away from the same old scenery and all the frustrations and worries. If you don't ask your wife how she feels, then you are just never going to resolve this problem. If you have done all this and nothing works, then simply say, "Well, you are so unhappy, I don't know what else to do, but I do know one thing .. I'm not sitting around here taking this and I don't want the rest of my life ruined by fighting with you." Either she'll agree to a divorce or you're shock her into realizing she has to work at herself too. Good luck Marcy

Marriage

In the past people married at a much younger age on average than they do today. Marrying in your late teens or early twenties was the norm. Most people got married as this is what was expected of you, and people rarely considered not doing so.

Many fewer decide to marry these days. Many make the conscious decisions not to as they prefer to remain more independent. This can be the case for both genders. Some would argue that people wait to meet the right person now, whereas before they would marry the first person who came along.

Living Together while not Married

In the past it was not socially acceptable for unmarried couples to live together. It was seen as wrong and was therefore extremely rare. It is possible that this contributed to early marriage.

Unmarried couples living together has almost become the norm now. Many decide to see how they get along living together before they decide to marry. It is also common for couples to live together, and possibly have children, without ever getting married. They live the same way as a married couple without ever making it official.

Children

It used to be rare for people not to have children. Most people would conform to a very specific lifestyle, marrying young and having children soon after. Hardly anyone had children before marriage, and it was even rarer for people to do this by choice.

Nowadays it is not uncommon at all for people to have children without being married and this is not seen as a big issue by most. Sometimes parents live together as a family with their children without being married, while others are single parents. Not everyone decides to have children either. It is no longer seen as something you must do so it has become more of a choice.

The Role of Women

A hundred years ago, the role of women was very specific. They were expected to marry, have children, and not work. Their role was to look after the home and their children while men went out to work.

Womens role in family life, and life in general, now depends on the individual person and her circumstances. Many still crave the traditional lifestyle of marriage and children, but many make other choices. There are many more career women; some are working parents while others dont have children at all. The role of men is also less rigid, and it is much more common than it used to be for Mothers to go to work while Fathers stay at home.

Divorce

Divorce was once illegal so wasnt an option at all. Even once it did become legal it was rarely considered and was deemed a sin by many.

Now it is much more common for a variety of reasons. Attitudes have completely changed and divorce is seen as perfectly acceptable for those in an unhappy marriage and there is no longer the same stigma attached to it. Although some think of the increase in divorce as a negative, it could be argued that it is better than remaining unhappy. It is also practically easier with family law having changed to make it easier for those seeking a divorce.

BigTime Methhead and Polesmoker

i guess it is normal

i mean, i guess they might not be friends anymore because they're ashamed

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A 100% normal, if this man is trying to deal and undo what he done to his wife.

But if this married man never care he will find the way to reconnect with his mistress.

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God yes, it is normal and only the right thing to do. I don't know the whole story of the couples and the mistress but this married man needs to correct or even rebuild his relationship to his wife. The ex mistress needs to be out of his life, she will not help him if all she wants is for them to chit chat like an old friends. The other woman already helped this man to ruined the life of his wife and her role is only his friend with benefit. Affair is fun but with consequences, its time for this ex mistress to go and stop all contact even if the married man fell in love with her, or wants to talk to her. It's a sin and immoral.

Do you mean should women have careers after marriage? If so, sure. If they want a career, then they should have one. The reason they should have one if they want one is because they want one.

Either you are having other problems in your marriage, or you are looking at the odd other woman. Tell me a man that doesn't. It's alright to 'look but not touch' and women do the same thing. You need to communicate with your wife more and let her know that she can't say she hasn't looked at another man. just let her know how much you love her and she is beautiful no comparision. If you havent already reassure her that you are in love with her and dont want anyone else. She is being unreasonable in the sense that you have eyes and cant help but look, as long as you arent disrespectful and drool and drag it out or make comments. Now if she is feeling insecure then she needs to do something about that and sometimes all it takes is a little more doting then usual. On the other hand, you need to find out if she is feeling a little guilty about something, they say sometimes when someone is accusing you that they are doing the same thing. Get down to the bottom of it and figure why she is so immature about other women, she should realize you are with her and going home with her, so what if you look, if you do. If you dont then theres something going on.

Something to do with being like, the guard, the protector, something along those lines I believe.

• If your husband was an alcoholic and he got drunk this once then you must try and talk him into going back (if he ever went) or go to AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) for help with his addiction. Once an alcoholic and if they are lucky to sustain from alcohol for several years they are still considered an alcoholic because one drink is one too many. Alcoholism is a disease and the person cannot generally stop at one drink. If your husband never did drink, but got drunk at home; party or out with his friends and made a fool of himself this is not a big deal to forgive and once he hears how he looked and acted he may well try to control his drinking or even sustain from drinking. Some people can drink a great deal and show no signs of being drunk, while one person can have one or two drinks and show all signs of being drunk.

I feel bad for you and i hope you can get through this but I think you should sit down with each other and talk about it. Ask him what he thinks and if his answers don't make you feel any better call his ex and ask her if she really wants him back. If they do love each other than I'm sorry but they do. I think that if it's ok with you and him then you should file for divorce.

lance hills wives name was Elizabeth

If your tired of saying "yes Dear" then seek advice from a family counsellor or try for both of you to go together for marraige counselling.

Elopement, in marriage, means run away and do not comeback to the point of origination

The universal symbol for marriage is all so called the TUFF (True Unity For Family) logo. This is the only registered symbol of its kind in the world. This very symbol also doubles as the only and first universal symbol for family invented by Louis Thomas the ("TUFF Guy") of Kankakee, Ill.

if you have it on your pointer finger it means gay if you are married if you aren"t married having a ring on your pointer finger means nothing.

traditionally, it's the man who will first say 'i do'

it depends

No it is not normal for your husband to buy his secretary flowers on Mother's Day. It is up to her children to do so if they are old enough or her husband or boyfriend.

As assets, anything she gains from the divorce can be taken if she's on Medicare/Medicaid. Is this divorce taking place because it's the only way to get her on Medicaid?

Lynwood Lunsford is not currently married. He was married 3 times. First to Michelle, Second to Elta and Third to Laurie Ann.