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Abused Men
Instances of men being abused by their partner – physically, emotionally or even sexually – are as prevalent as women abuse. Unfortunately, many of these cases go unreported because male victims have to contend with social standards of men being the abuser.
259 Questions
Is it mental abuse if a husband refuses to go out with his wife?
It depends on the situation. If most wives waited for their husbands to be motivated enough to entertain others or even go out then we'd be very lonely women. If he is using this to "get even" with you this is another story. If this is the case go out without him! Don't let ANYONE control your social life. It would be a good idea to communicate with your husband. Perhaps he works shift-work and is just plain tired. If so, come to some agreement that one night a week you both do something together or with friends and the other times when you need to get out of the house you could go out with girlfriends. Many of us rely on our girlfriends for some entertainment. Good luck Marcy My ex, would insist that he pays for the date always (even if he literally took the money from my purse to pay for it) and he insisted that he should be the "man" and ask me out. And not the other way around. I would be severely criticized if I asked. So needless to say as he went out to basketball, hockey games, a monthly night out with this guy, and weekly drinks with the guys, and then of course, he worked hard so he was entitled to go for a drink....I waited alot. We went out 1 in the last year we were together, 3 times the year before and only 4 times the year before. Everyone else came before me. He didn't even take me out during these three past years, to celebrate any of the 3 kids we had, the house that we bought together or even when we got engaged. (ALthough he was entitled to go out and celebrate with his buddies). So if you end up feeling like you're on an never-ending to-do list then yes it is.
What is classified as verbal abuse at work?
People have been known to be arrested for verbal abuse... but that may be due to being aimed at the police. Verbal basically means speaking, so it depends what is said through the verbal use. E.g. bad language aimed at some,
name calling these can be classed as verbal abuse
Do abusive men know they are abusive?
We cannot speak for all abusive men, but we assume that most of them know that they are abusers. Abusive men tend to come from abusive homes, and the behavior may seem normal to them. Others may feel that such behavior is their right. Most of them know the law, but when rage strikes, the law often doesn't mean much.
Is it illegal to verbally abuse a man?
- No, it is not illegal to verbally abuse a man, but if the man was smart he would leave. Verbal abuse can leave just as many scars for a victim as physical abuse. There are programs for abused men that they should attend and learn tools in order to get out of the verbally abusive situation. Example: If a wife is verbally abusing her husband and he decides to divorce her and he can prove she is verbally abusing him then the court could press charges against her (highly unlikely) but you would be granted a divorce.
Abusers, male or female, nearly always come from families where abuse was the norm. That is also true of people who are attracted to abusers.
People from abusive backgrounds find themelves attracted to that sort of person because they have characteristics with which they are familiar, and that make them feel comfortable. We tend to seek out mates that mirror our parents, whether we try to or not, and we usually end up behaving as they did, as well.
One of the characteristics of abuse is that it tends to become more severe as relationships progress, and often does not show up until there is stress that triggers it. Then the abuser, not having been shown other ways of dealing with what he or she perceives as an otherwise insurmountable problem, falls back into the ways that the family of origin behaved.
If you find yourself involved with more than one abuser, it would be a good idea to extricate yourself from the situation, and perhaps speak with someone about why you seem to be attracted to that sort of person.
We can assure you that not all men are abusive.
Can you sue for mental cruelty?
- Mental Cruelty is extremely difficult to prove. If you have witnesses; tape recordings or camcorder evidence this could help in your case. It is most important the victim seek out a lawyer that deals with physical and verbal abuse to see if the victim has a good case at all. If the victim should win then yes, damages may be deemed in some cases.
The ability to recognize or distinguish the true nature of someone or something. Discernment and wisdom are close cousins. Personally, discernment means that I can "see through" (discern) a situation and decide whether that situation is good or bad, for instance. I use discretion with a person that I have discerned to be bad for me. I have deducted/discerned through watchful eyes, that not everything is what it seems. Discernment is a result of having lived through different situations and learning the outcomes. In most cases, the older you are the better you can discern a good person from a bad person. Hope this helps!
Why do woman verbally abuse their spouse?
it is just something we do because our man is for us and we feel that even kno they wear the pants we want to feel like we have a say im not saying talk about your man cause that willl make him question does she really love u r not cause shes acting really stupid
- You should take time out for yourself and ask yourself what you are doing or not doing for your wife. Perhaps she has asked you to fix one or more things around the house and you have not done so; perhaps you make messes and don't clean up after yourself (a wife is not maid service); you may not tell her enough that you love her and may take her for granted; when was the last time you bought her flowers or took her out for a romantic dinner? Marriage is a two way street and both partners should respect each other and lend a hand where they can. Life can get very busy especially if a couple is raising children; working and trying to keep their home clean and tidy and still find time for quality time with their children and each other. If you have children and can financially afford it perhaps set up a time to have grandparents or a sister or sister-in-law take the children and take your wife on a three to four day romantic trip which could be as simple as staying at a nice cottage by the beach and strolling the beach together or watching the sunset. You also need to sit down with your wife and communicate better with her. Ask her what makes her scold you and then let her know some of your dislikes about her as far as how she treats you and be sure you choose your words carefully and speak in a calming tone. In a marriage you should be friends first and lovers second.
Where women of class treated differently?
Yes, they were, women in higher classes had more privilage and women of lower classes had less.
What to do if wife hits husband?
Report it to the police.
Added: It is a perfect example of Domestic Violence and if no intervention takes place will likely only increase in frequency and/or get worse.
Why does my boyfriend verbally abuse me?
I think people who verbally abuse others just have deeper issues themselves. It either stems from the way they were brought up or situations that have occured in the past that they can't deal with properly.
I was seeing a guy once who always verbally abused me. He would snap at the slightist thing. He would start to raise his voice, starting name calling and start to swear. It really damaged my self-esteem and I started to become very shy and self concious whenever I was out or around him. Turns out he was sexually abused as a young child and has never really been able to cope with it in his own mind. It was eating him up inside and he felt angry at the world.
It is something I know he is working on now as it is something he needs to fix. But until he loves himself, he can't love anyone else.
Please don't think it is your fault. No-one deserves to be abused. And if you can't see the light at the end of tunnel - leave.
Answer2: Your boyfriend may do this because of his upbringing, but he also does it because you tolerate it and let him get away with it. Yes I agree with the first answer because I know of that same situation. A man who treated his wife horribly, but after she left him he got the professional help he needed. Turns out the babysitter had started having sex with him when he was 11 years old. Your boyfriend is not going to change until he seeks professional help for what is going on in his head. Until then he WILL NOT CHANGE and YOU CANNOT change him. Breaking up with someone you care about is hard, but being trapped in an abusive relationship is far harder. The best thing you can do is suggest your boyfriend gets help and wish him well. Work on healing for yourself, you will find a man who will love and cherish you for the beautiful person you are.
What do you do if someone calls you homophobic slur?
You laugh at them and answer that they are simply displaying their own ignorance.
How power can be used and abused in care setting?
- The elderly who are very ill have little control of what happens to them. Some elderly may have suffered a stroke or are too ill to speak and have suffered abuse either by one or more of their adult children or even some nurses in nursing homes (more common that one thinks.) If an elderly person has not been proven to be of sound mind (and they may well not be of sound mind) family; some lawyers or people of power can fool an elderly person to sign over finances they may have or property and the elderly person is not aware of what they are signing. If at home either the caregiver; some cleaning people; even some nurses who come into the home may steal jewelry or money from that elderly person. Not all caregivers; nurses or any other professional is bad, but there are some out there that consider an elderly person is closer to death than not so why not get what they can from them.
How do you create a cease and desist letter against an ex spouse?
A Notice of Cease & Desisit Acknowledgement is drafted against a creditor in an attempt used to stalemate or discontinue further collection activities against a creditor. In order to do this you must first name yourself as well as the creditor within the Notice of Cease and Desist. You must specify within the grounds of this letter where and when you wish to be contacted, or to no longer be contacted by the creditor in the future at all. According to FACTA, (FAIR ACCURATE CREDIT TRANSACTION ACT, Amended as of 12/31/03, Re amended as of 01/01/04) which states that Creditor can only make communications with a client or said customer between the hours of 8AM to 9PM Monday to Saturday, but no contact as of Sunday. The time of contact must not be an inconvenience to the customer. Communication can be orchestrated by means of these methods... Fax, Telephone (Cell Phone, Digital, LAN Line), Written or Verbal, Electronic (this is email. However, even though one issues a Cease and Desist, the said creditor still has the ability to continue it's collection practice by means of filing legal against the said client who owes the debt as long as the debt is considered to be Complete & Accurate in Nature, meaning that based on Due Diligence, the client owes the debt.
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Can a spouse open your mail without your permission?
The Privacy Act does not allow a spouse to share other spouse's information in health care, financial or government institutions, or any other legal matters UNLESS THE SPOUSE PROVIDES WRITTEN CONSENT FOR OTHER SPOUSE.
However, at times the spouse can write the Power of Attorney for the partner to disclose all his info.
The same applies for his personal mail and emails. These are his personal boundaries which should not be violated.
What is the average sweatshop worker pay?
Sweatshop workers get payed anywhere less than legal American legal minimum wage a day. Because other countries do not have labor laws, this is considered legal. Some large corpotations sell expensive clothing to America while across seas, underage children, women, and men are getting paid pennies. Next time you buy sneakers or a shirt that says, "Made in China," think about the makers of the clothing.
My boyfriend hits me what do I do?
Seek a PPO. Its a Personal Protection Order. You can get one at your local county courthouse, or at the Clerks office, you can also go on-line and check them out considering what state you live in. Personal Protection Orders are designed for domestic (family or relationship) situations. If this gets serious or if you feel the treat to be genuine, you can also call the cops and inform them of said threat. Anytime someone threatens you and you feel that the treat is real, that is an assault, you do not need to get hit for an assault to be warranted. nor do you need a battery (hitting of any kind) to follow along with it. an Assault is when a person makes a threat that the person to whom the threat was made feels in fear of the person making said threat, therefore, if this happens an Assault has occurred, most times when someone say something to the extent of, "I'm going to beat the S#$% out of you," (an Assault) and follows it up it by doing so (battery) it becomes an Assault and battery. But for now if seek A PPO and Call the police within a reasonable time of the treat being made.
Answer1. LEAVE. Leave now, leave quickly, get to someplace safe and surround yourself with people that truly care about you. Yes, it's complicated. Yes, it can be heartbreaking - but here's two insights that might help; your boyfriend has some issues that he needs to deal with (whether its anger management, his own past childhood abuse, chemical abuse, bipolar disorder or something else), and love does not involve threatening people with anything (little of all death). You do not have the expertise to give your boyfriend the professional help he clearly needs to become stable and a non-threat, neither are you in a safe position to assist him to get that expertise. Relationships based on threats have no trust, no trust means no security nor love, without security or love...why is there a relationship? The answer is out of habit. Habit is not a valid reason for relationships of any kind.1a. You need to get a record with the local police department as soon as possible registering a complaint against him for threatening you. The reason for this is that most state/local laws about stalking or restraint orders require a significant stack of paperwork to show reason why that legal measure would be necessary, and you should have it as a safety net. When you get in touch with the police, be sure to have his car license plate number with you. If he is involved with any minor fender-benders in the near future, the record at the police department should spur an investigation - even if you weren't present and no one was majorly injured.
1b. Seek expert advice about the validity of his threats, and what response is best as far as whether you should live at a safe house for a while or if you should not change any habits (so as not to empower him as per response #1's idea). An expert can ask you questions about the circumstances of the threat, his past history of threatening you, and other such critical pieces of evidence that are too private for the internet ~ and unknowable to any random advice giver (no matter how good the intention is). This leads to number 2 -
2. Locate a good counselor and meet with him or her to talk about your experiences with this soon-to-be-ex-boyfriend so that you can observe any patterns in your life that might create future relationship difficulties with men who will be much more significant to you and much more thoughtful and loving. Most states offer a low income counseling option, if money is an issue - if you are still in high school talk to your school counselor. Many cities have "survival" groups that are free. People who share related experiences meet in these (mostly open membership) groups to work through issues and yes, have fun. Joining a "abuse survival" group might be a good experience for you, even if you were never physically abused - mental abuse (such as a threat that causes so much anxiety that you resort to posting an annonymous question on the WikiAnswers website) is also abuse. If money isn't a concern, get the counselor who has the most experience in the area of relationships, abuse, etc. If all else fails, buy one of those recent books by Dr. Phil. Seriously. Not that his threat to you is in any way your fault - rather, it is important for your safety that you can identify characteristics about this soon to be ex that make him dangerous, so that you avoid others like him in your future. After all, part of resolving this question of yours is how you will heal after this experience. (Note: another expert that might be of assistance to you if you are inclined to do so, have the money to do so, and would feel more secure doing so, is a lawyer while you are at it. Select this lawyer by word-of-mouth (ask trusted friends) the yellow pages is just not a good way to judge which lawyers are good or not. I doubt you would need a lawyer at all...but hey, its an option.) But...back to the nice warm and fuzzy part - see point 3 below.
3. The good news is - the future is yours. It's all yours and it is a nice loooooong future. You will get wrinkles and grey hair, you will have more grandkids than you know what to do with. Someday ~ in the distant future. And the sooner you safely get out of the relationship you are in (by involving police and other experts) the sooner this nice future will have its first, promising days. It wont be easy, nothing is, staying would be far harder. The past is just that, it is gone. The present is what you can change. The future is yet unwritten. Your future should be filled with security, safety, and loving people who wish the best for you. Reach out to those people, and take your first steps toward meeting the one's you don't know yet. Leave. ASAP.
AnswerHey buddy!Relax. People who issue these kind of threats are usually like dogs who just know to bark and not to bite. So,don't you worry. He comes across as an abuser no doubt. But, don't you be scared of him. I will advise you to involve your parents in the issue if you can and if not then take help of a very reliable friend and report the matter to police immediately. He will be taken to task. And at no point show yourself to be a weak person. Leave him immediately and also you can tell him that you are not scared of his threats and he can do whatever he feels like and that you have already informed a few good people about it (threats, so if anything has to happen to you he won't get off scot free).
And friend, next time try to judge a person well and give yourself sometime before you commit into a relationship. Good Luck!
Which president hit his wife and was an alcoholic?
Franklin Pierce drank a great deal on occasion and suffered bouts of alcoholism.
U. S. Grant drank too much in his early years, but I think he quit before he became a famous general or President. George W. Bush did some heayy drinking as a young man, but gave alcohol up before he entered politics. Andrew Johnson was accused of being alcoholic but these charges were false.
first off im going to keep it simple, do not move on to a rebound too quickly allow some time for you to go out with your your girls :D let love come to you and know that your special just that person wasn't right for you, however that doesn't mean that you wont find love. it will all happen in time. talk to friends for reassurance and advice. remember you can't love unless you love yourself.
Answer 2:
I applaud you for getting out of a toxic, unhealthy relationship. You are strong for not shutting your eyes to the truth. Almighty God Jehovah is outraged when someone uses power to humiliate, intimidate or oppress others. Read Ecclesiastes 4:1 which says in part... " I saw the tears of the oppressed." You need to grasp thst you do not deserve to be mistreated. You are very precious in God's eyes.
Work on developing healthy self respect. Talk to someone about it even if it means getting professional help. Keep busy by engaging in reading, exercise, sports or hobbies. See Awake article.
- Ronald (aka: Butch) DeFeo who murdered his parents and siblings (re: The Amityville Horror Movie) tried to plead insanity, but the jury 12 - 0 didn't buy it and he is serving 6 second degree counts of murder to 25 years to life in Green Haven Correctional Facility and will not be up for parole. He is still approached by authors who are trying to get the real truth out of DeFeo, but, Defeo refuses to discuss it further. Another unclear mystery regarding DeFeo is that he was married to 'Geraldine' and they have a little girl, but the police could not find a marriage license or any other shred of evidence although Geraldine new a great deal about the murders of the DeFeo family. She is now remarried and cannot mention her relationship with DeFeo (if there truly was one to begin with) in order to protection their child and her children with her second husband and she has a record of several counts of fraud.
What are questions you can ask when first getting to know someone?
The best questions to ask are the ones you believe to be important to determine compatibility. Things like, ethics and religious beliefs, what they want in a relationship, or if they want children at sometime in the future. Ask about their hopes, their dreams, their ambitions and their fears. And be prepared to answer the same questions to them.
The percenatge of being mentally abused?
gloryuh thinks eveyone has been sexually abused. ;) and they liked it... gloryuh thinks eveyone has been sexually abused. ;) and they liked it...
