Abusive Relationships and Domestic Violence

Short term counseling. Snowskeeper: Don't try to do it too soon after the relationship, just get comfortable with other people first. Then try it.

Well if there were no oxygen then all animals would probably die except plants because all they need is carbon dioxide

plants would die without us as plants need us to inhale the oxygen they make then exhale the carbon dioxide that they need. our relationship with plants is interdependant meaning we could not survive without each other

Please DO accept that you are doing the right thing to exert your independence. Please DON'T let this man undermine your decision with his cold callousness. This stuff hurts so much, believe me I know, but if you stay with this person you will only be hurt over and over again. I hope you will cut your losses and move on. This may be difficult for you, it is for us all, but the fact that you have already shown him what you are made of is a sign of your own strength. Bravo! Maybe you can try to surround yourself with supportive people during this difficult time. Maybe you can get some counseling if you think it will help. It may also help to accept that this man is not right in the head. He is not capable of treating you the way you should be. It is unfortunate that we fall in love with these people, but they are no good for us. You have to love and take care of yourself first. Good luck to you! Time will heal you. Hon, listen to yourself! You just stated that he has done this many times before which means YOU TOOK HIM BACK! You need to change your way of thinking and realize that you deserve better than that and that if he can't respect you when you aren't doing anything to expect anything less, then you need to leave this person for good! I know, I left my first abusive husband. Yes, it hurts, and sometimes we feel we have failed, but if you give yourself a good chance of being away from your abuser you'll come to realize you did nothing wrong and they have the problem. Couples who love each other DO NOT abuse each other. Since no one is perfect couples can certainly have their arguments or, on occasion say something mean to the other because they are frustrated or angry, but when it's constant and they don't treat you well it's time to move on. Abusers are controllers and he's angry you got away and knows he can't control you anymore so you are of no use to him. You've turned his safe little world upside down and he doesn't like it. Trust me when I say that abusive men (or women) do not have successful relationships or attain any goals in the personality department and lack lasting relationships including family and friends or business associates. Quit going back!!!!!

If you were at fault, then it's either time you got out of that relationship or seek counseling or both. Either way, it's not a good situation for you or your partner. People who abuse have control issues. If you were falsely accused of domestic abuse, then you should also get away from your accuser. Domestic violence is taken very seriously these days and you could wind up with a lenghty jail sentence. By the way, most murder victims are killed by their domestic partners. Learn to control your anger. Seek help!

Obviously he is under the impression that such behavior is appropriate. Maybe he is making the preemptive attack against you so that his family will leave you alone. Either way, such behavior is inappropriate and you shouldn't put up with it. This is someone whom you are about to marry?!? Anyone who puts you down in public or to his family is a disrespectful, controlling individual. He has chosen you for his doormat because you allow it. Set him straight now, before it is too late. Let him know that you are no longer his punching bag and you will not be degraded/disrespected by him or anyone else. Tell him to get help! *Find another fiance. It doesn't make any difference whether it's in public, or whose family it is, that sort of behavior is inappropriate, unacceptable, and you should not tolerate it...not from your fiance, nor anyone else. Move on and good luck. *Drop him like you would a hot rock. If he shows you disrespect now, what do you think he's going to doif you marry him? If you give a person who is putting you down an inch, they're going to take a mile. While it's verbal now, there's a real good chance that once you are married, it will go beyond verbal to physical. Even if it doesn't get physical, verbal put-downs can cause as much damage to you personally and to the relationship. The man has a problem and there is nothing you can do to help him. He has to acknowledge he has a problem (which chances are very great he won't), want to change (why do that when he sees nothing wrong with what he is doing), and get help (to him, he doesn't need help). If you marry him, you'll be making a major mistake. Deb

he needs to let that woman know that there isn't a spark there anymore, or maybe try to rekindle the love!

"Mores" in the societical sense of the word means "standards, values, customs". These are underlyingnorms thatform the basis for expectedbehavior for a given culture, which also means they can vary widely around the world. For instance, in the United States a societal more is to be approachable; this gives rise to the commonly accepted behavior of requesting to be addressed by one's first name when first meeting someone new. However, in Asia the more is to be respectful, which gives rise to the commonly accepted behavior of addressing others by title and last name even after working with them for years.

Because men are stupid, They think that women are very easy.

Some insecure men are total liars women should keep away from, not all men are totally the same.

Because they don't have the coping mechanisms to be alone "everyone needs to realise that ultimately the only person in the world you have is yourself" look at the fact you arte alive as a testament of how far you've come its sad but finding yourself when you are lost is more important than relying on another to pull you out

nooooooooooo that's not why maybe because they no that undernieth all that crap that the abuser said or did he still loves her and they also feel it is their fault he was abusive if they didnt screw up or act stupid all the time their abuser wouldn't have to hit them its sad but true women usally blame them selfsthe truth is that the only time ive seen abusers change is on the maury show

You have basically two ways to stop someone from dominating a conversation. You can become even more conversationally aggressive than they are, or you can refuse to have a conversation with them in the first place.

when you feel like your partner doesn't love you anymore and you feel like leaving him, you should confront him first or else, when you leave him and the truth was he loved you then that sucks

before deciding,,, think first, do you think you're being a little bit insecure?

Here's what you do. You tell him a really cute girl called. (IT HAS TO BE SOMEONE HE KNOWS!!!) Tell him the name and the phone number. He will (if he's smart) call the girl ASAP. Tell him that the girl wants him to say how much he likes her. When he calls her, she will have NO IDEA what he's talking about. It's soooo funny. My best friend tried it.

The risk of getting acquainted with others is that you do not really know what kind of person you are getting acquainted with, until after you become acquainted, and some people turn out to make very bad acquaintances.

Tell your "mum" to do some yoga exercises. It works all the time for my mom.

She would "lie" about it because she went somewhere else and doesn't want to discuss it with you. From the wording of your question, you want support for your rights of explanation from her. However, a marriage is made up of two whole people, who are not owned by one another, but who are bound by commitment and trust. I should add that you just have to think the best of her and not worry about discrepancies. If she wants to tell you, fine. You shouldn't try to extract the answer you want to hear from her.

No, Marriages' are about mutual trust and mutual benefit. Anyone who tells you different is deluding themselves. It's a union of two people, and don't think for one second that if you weren't providing a lifestyle in which was at least partly conducive to her ideal that she wouldn't leave. Here's the catch, if she is lying to you about the time she got off of work, to go to a male friends house, "For a haircut". She's lying to you and i'll guarantee it. I don't like giving bad news, but i would hire a private detective if i were you. And then very publicly divorce her when she is caught cheating. That way you walk away with all the marriage property and money before it's too late.

Come on think it out this way, would you lie to your wife to go get a haircut. No you would say "hey" i'm going to get a haircut. No lying, cheating, or nonsense. And whoever wrote that first part is an ever-loving idiot. Marriages' are a contract entered into like any other contract, that's like buying a car and it breaking down and having someone tell you your not entitled to an answer. Not only are you entitled to a answer, your entitled by contract to that answer.

Sorry that sounds a little redundant. But thats as honest as i can be for you, take care and wish you the best.

really? it means stop being a wuss. or your being immature.

It's hard to believe, but there are so many people that just don't understand abuse. At one time I knew about abuse and I helped a couple of my girlfriends get out of abusive relationships, but I didn't actually witness it. Then I volunteered for the Abused Women's Center" and had my eyes really opened. It's an experience I am so glad I went through although it ripped my heart out at the same time. Sometimes we have to see the ugly side of life to really get to the core of problems. We can talk about it, even with those that suffer from certain situations, but until you see it with your own eyes and get involved then a person knows nothing. No! It's not normal for friends or family to think that you, as a victim of abuse is just out to get your abuser. If they were educated in abuse they would realize that most of the time the victim is terrified of her abuser, becomes subservient, withdrawn, lacks confidence and doesn't want to wake up the sleeping dragon (tick the abuser off in other words.) Of course you want your feelings validated. Why not! You've been either mentally/physically (or both) abused. Like small children's voices in the wind .... who will listen? Well, the "Abused Women's Center" does. You DON'T NEED VALIDATION FROM ANYONE! When you can, pack a bag and head for that Abused Women's Center in your area. Tell NO ONE where you are. They will put you in a "safe house" or "transition house" and keep you safe, get you on your feet, and, if need be help you with legal counsel. Hon, listen to your inner self. If you are being abused, then you know it! Run when you can. Don't listen to those that aren't there for you and move on from the whole mess. It isn't that family and friends don't care, but perhaps they simply don't understand that abuse is abuse and slapping, shoving, putting a person down is actually abuse. Rule of thumb to go by ... "When someone makes you feel bad 100% of the time it's time to leave them behind!" Good luck Marcy

It's likely that people who are being abused in a relationship feel guilty for a variety of reasons, and could benefit from support to evalutate the sources of guilt and reasons for remaining in that relationship. Please know that NO ONE ever deserves to be abused and although it may seem difficult to leave an abusive relationship, your life may depend on it - and so do your children's (if applicable) if they are experiencing abuse at the hands of the abuser or by witnessing your abuse - don't underestimate just how much your children are affected by this and will surely affect them for the rest of their lives. Most professionals realize that the abuser may likely have not always been abusive and has some positive qualities to which you were initially attracted, but despite having good qualities and having good days, it is never okay for someone to abuse another person. Abuse never gets better on it's own or just goes away, in fact, it gets worse over time, like a fire that starts out small and gradually spreads to ruin an entire building, abuse is a flammable foundation. Please respect yourself enough, even if you have lost your self-respect, to get out of a situation that leads you to feeling guilty and start working to repair the damage and pain.

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• People can blackmail another person for money; sexual favors and it generally does not stop. Most people have secrets in their life they would rather hide and some people have secrets that could ruin their career or marriage. The people who blackmail can either be jealous of that person and enjoy having them under their thumb; want the money badly or enjoy the control of being paid to keep their mouth shut for sexual favors and the blackmailer does so because they have no morals.

Leave him.The resons to support your decision would be i)he doesn't respect u enough to treat you well for one doesn't call your spouse with names if he is a mature and loving person ii)Now its a verbal abuse but soon it will turn into a physical one too. I am telling you this out of my personal experience.My husband used to emotionally abuse me in the initial stages as in he would yell then later it was just one curse word and then a direct fist blow on my face. So,I would advise you to get out of the relationship if you can.And if that's not possible,you can tell him without mincing the words that under no circumstances you will tolerate an attack on your self-respect.

It's always possible to get out of a bad relationship if your married go to woman in destress they will provide you with shelter and clothing and food intill you can get on your feet with a job and your own place.