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Abusive Relationships and Domestic Violence
An abusive relationship is a relationship in which a person is victim to the use or threat of being physically or psychologically abused. Here you can ask questions about abusive relationships such as how to spot it, and how to get yourself or others help.
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What is the spiritual meaning of a brahman?
The word "Brahman" means 'a piece of Supreme Divine'... hence the spiritual meaning is quite straight. One whose heart is as pure as Divine and one who identifies himself the divine than his physical form is a Brahman.
A Brahman is one who loves all, sees everything as one great Divine energy, and devotes his time in exploring the Divine - hence adding to expressions of the Divine.
Anybody from any race, relegion or species can be a Brahman.
What are the objective of domestic violence?
There is no objective of domestic violence, but to consider once partner as an object. Domestic violence doesn't has any exact reasons to mention. Domestic violence may be due the mentality of the person or their upbringing who is causing domestic violence. If one needs more details they can approach to Siddhartha Shah and Associates on the following details.
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Do abusive men ever leave their partners or is it a test to see if you will call them?
Usually abusive men are in love with the control they have over their partners. They will do various things to keep the abuse going which includes leaving their partner, holding back on affection, etc. They will do ANYTHING to keep that control. So no it's not a test to see if they can get you to call them, it's a way of keeping control over their partner to break them down emotionally. Everything that is done is intentional & the abuser will get upset when they are not getting the results they are wanting and the abuse will usually escalate from there. It's a cycle and the only person that can end it is the victim. When you're in an abusive relationship it is hard to break free but know that you are putting your life at risk by continuing to stay in this situation. Good luck & God Bless!
My husband is very possessive and controlling what should I do?
You have to be honest with him first Tell him this: Honey (or watever you call him) I think that you have been taking control of this whole relationship. Relationships are about equality. I dont want to step on your toes and walk in front of you, but I'm not walking behind you either. If he's understanding, then he will listen to you, if he's a big jerk about it, then there is no sense in trying. Either put up with it, or leave. Better yet, you kick him out!
Should one avoid the 'charming' man who gets defensive if you question his actions that affect you?
Run for your life! Red flag! Inability to accept disagreement and criticism is a bad sign. Not every charmer is an abuser - but many abusers are "pathological charmers".
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Get out now... I just got out of that situation... run and run fast.. they are abusive and don't explain just go otherwise he will charm you to stay!
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My abusive ex boyfriend put the charm on thick....and I mean thick when we first starting going out. He also was very secretive, went out on weekends without me and had a reason/need to do so. He too was very defensive...so bad I thought I was really being to over critical and could not accept the actions of his behaviors toward me. Seriously.....RUN AWAY! These are red flags for you. If you are even a bit hesitant...then I would keep my distance and watch him from afar! Charm is their way of "obtaining a victim." But you don't even know you are going to be one.....until he has captured you in his web of deceit.
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This is a huge red flag. An old x friend became enraged when I questioned his so-called concern. It wasn't concern, it was control he seeked. And knew I figured him out.
Does a parent have to listen to verbal abuse from teenager?
No, all people have the right to not receive verbal abuse from anyone even a relative of any age. Speak to the school counselor about the family dynamics and get help. If you have a minister get help from him or her. There are many videos and books available to modify this behavior.
He is not emotionally available anymore?
- When someone tells another person they are not emotionally available to them any longer it means that person is drained mentally by the others emotions and they are tired with the relationship.
If your husband ignores your feelings and upsets you is he being abusive?
There is a difference between neglect and abuse; but both are harmful. Abuse is when the harm is done intentionally, neglect is when it is done without intent. What you describe er would more likely be called neglect.
violence should never be in a relationship no matter what, no matter how old you are. People can get murder and killed trust me i nearly saw that happen and i dont want to go back in the past it was to painful for me trust me iv'e seen it happen. and if its happening to you get out of the relatinship nobody should take the horror anymore living your life with that horrable mess again and call the police immedently.
Does an abuser take pleasure in hurting his partner emotionally?
Most times yes, this is all part of the "control" game. For the person being abused this can, over time, create a dependency towards this. I know that sounds horrible, but you will find that many that are in an abusive relationship that get away, tend to careen back to abusive type people. Knowing they would hit you installs the belief of the abuser being a form of personal security or defender. This may or may not be an actual truth if the person is confronted by another individual. Such as A hitting B in a bar and C getting upset about it and confronting A. This is a very dangerous road to travel down as you may not know the level someone will go with the abuse.
AnswerYes. AnswerYes. Don't stay with an abuser. AnswerChances are the abuser was abused as a child. This is the only way they know how to communicate. I would let them know how much it is hurting me, and I would encourage them to seek therapy. I was in a verbally abusive relationship once, and you don't realize how much it destroys who you are. I went from having the most confidence and self esteem, to having next to none. I got out of that relationship (I eventually found out he was into drugs). I then met my future husband, and I realized what I was missing out on all those years. AnswerI don't agree with the people above who said yes. No, they don't take pleasure in it. They aren't happy when they do it. Saying that an abuser takes pleasure in abusing is like saying that a runner enjoys giving up when he isn't winning a race. The abuser isn't saying "Today is such a good day. I think I'll go fishing and then abuse my wife for a while and then I'll go get ice cream." I'm not trying to justify the abusers actions; they are absolutely not OK. NEVER stay in a relationship where there is physical abuse. But, if you want to, you can help to change someone who is a verbal/emotional abuser, and you do have a chance of saving the relationship. The only way to do this is to understand what he is feeling. If you think that he takes pleasure in it and he does it for fun, then you definitely don't understand what he is feeling.Abusers are usually frustrated and angry but they just don't know how to communicate well. They don't want to be their partner's peer; they want to be in control, and they crave power. Instead of talking about problems with his partner, he will take it out on her. (I am making the assumption that this is a male abuser and a female partner. Of course this is an unfortunate stereotype, but the same applies for any type of relationship.) He does not take pleasure in hurting his partner, physically or emotionally, but for whatever reason, he either thinks that this is the best way to tell you something or control you, or he is just using you to take out his anger. This isn't OK. NEVER stay in a relationship where you are being physically abused. If there is verbal/emotional abuse, don't put up with it. It needs to stop. But if there is no physical abuse, there is still a chance of saving the relationship. In order to help him change, it is important to understand completely why he does what he does. Ask him about it. Pick your moment well and word it in a way that isn't accusatory or threatening. Don't call him an abuser, just ask him why he says the things he says. Don't let him pass the blame; it isn't your fault that he's abusing you. You want to find out the feelings underlying his abuse. Ask him if he is venting anger. Once you find out what makes him do what he does, you can help him to stop.
You might also want to suggest that you and him go to relationship therapy.
Is this phrase I am sorry you feel that way a narcissistic phrase?
- It depends on the subject the two people were talking about. However, saying, 'I am sorry you feel that way' is seldom a narcissistic phrase. Two people can have opinions on many subjects they are passionate about and what that phrase generally means is it is a stalemate and neither side is giving in so the one person who says they are sorry you don't feel that way is simply letting you know they still disagree with you.
What are the different type of abuse?
Physical
Sexual
Emotional
Financial
Social
Environmental
Ritual
Any kind of grabbing, hitting, touching in your private places and beating others is abusive, if anybody is to do these things you you should tell the POLICE ASAP.
How do you react to an aggressive person?
Calmly. Being an example with your behavior. If it persists then you need to get out of the situation or be prepared to defend yourself. This is especially the case in scenario's which include drunken people.
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Love it, I love it, It all started when she was a baby, The men in her life gave her everything she wanted now guess what? she learned. Is she into bondage? look she is a woman she has no respect for herself. sorry its true and she will never have respect for other women EVER. I take it you like this girl, well this is the best advise I can give you SLAP YOURSELF be a man you sissy, this is a new era, a newAmerica men are giving girls the mans role, they may want it but guess what, we are hardwired for what we are. meaning we can give them are freedom, are lives hell even are manhood, but they are still a girl. they want protection, security, blah, blah, blah. walk up to her tell her you want her even kiss her if you want the way you sound she wants to be dominated so hell slap her I guess. but don't wait for a response walk away, do not I repeat do NOT wait for a reaction if she wants you she will crawl to you. if not F@#k her go get another one. this will work it may not I don't know this woman this is only one way to skin the cat. and it may work but if she reads this were screwed. she will adapt then you will need to adjust fire. good luck...
It is a way of letting one of your fellow soldiers that you don't like what he did. They are ambushed and a blanket is thrown over their head so they can't see to fight or identify who is attacking them. They are then beaten heavily. It is illegal to do this, but it does happen.
Why did pink write dear mr president?
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Was life hard in England in 1787?
Yes, life in England in 1787 was challenging for many, particularly for the lower classes. The Industrial Revolution was beginning to transform the economy, leading to urbanization and often harsh working conditions in factories. Additionally, poverty and social inequality were prevalent, with limited access to education and healthcare. However, for the wealthier classes, life could be quite comfortable and privileged.
Why are some black men so abuses?
Black men may or may not be 'more' abusive than other ethnics, Men are usually abusive because they were around it as a young person. Or, they simply want to have their way and hitting is a good way to get people to do what you want.
Go with how you feel about this person. You can't totally judge them unless you have a "real" reason not to trust them, but how you feel about someone the first time you meet them is usually right. Just be cautious and watch that person around you and the people you care about.
People suffering from mental health disorders often provoke feelings of unease and "eeriness" in others.
It is very normal to have instintive, eerie and irritating feelings about someone even if they appear friendly and everyone speaks highly of them. We often respond to subtle behavioral cues, possibly on a subconscious level. These "eerie and irritating" reactive feelings constitute part of our survival instinct and should not be ignored!
Yes, it is normal. Never ignore your gut instinct.
Stalkers and the Borderline Personality
The Borderline Personality
In recent years psychologists have learned about and done case studies on a new personality disorder which the DSM-III-R classifies as an Axis II disorder- the Borderline Personality . This classification includes such personality disorders as the Anti-social Personality, the Histrionic Personality and the Narcissistic Personality. Several psychologists (including myself) diagonosed my stalker as afflicted with the Borderline Personality. Characteristic of the Borderline (derived from research done by Kreisman & Straus, 1989) are:
a shaky sense of identity
sudden, violent outbursts
oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection
brief, turbulent love affairs
frequent periods of intense depression
eating disorders, drug abuse, and other self-destructive tendencies
an irrational fear of abandonment and an inability to be alone
Not much research has been done on the Borderline Personality, and for many years it was difficult to diagnose- and to treat. A Borderline often feels as though his/her life is marked with a distinctive emptiness; a void in which a relationship often acts to fill. Many times the Borderline is a victim of an early dysfunctional family situation and/or emotional/physical abuse by those he/she trusted early on in childhood.
The Borderline is psychotic , in the original, psychological meaning of the term: he/she is not in control and not in touch with reality. To the Borderline, a softly spoken word of advice can be construed as a threat on his/her emotional stability. An outsider's viewpoint that the Borderline is not in touch with reality often ends in a bitter and irrational dissassociation from the outsider on the part of the Borderline. Often, the Borderline ends up very much alone and victim to his/her disillusions.
The Borderline stalker is very apt to see his/her actions as perfectly justified; he/she has paranoid disillusions which support these-often with disturbing frequency. The Borderline often has brief love affairs which end abruptly, turbulently and leave the Borderline with enhanced feelings of self-hatred, self-doubt and a fear that is not often experienced by rational people. When the Borderline's relationships turn sour, the Borderline often begins to, at first, harass the estranged partner with unnecessary apologies and/or apologetic behavior (i.e. letters of apology 'from the heart', flowers delivered at one's place of employment, early morning weeping phonecalls, etc.). However, the Borderline does not construe his/her behavior as harassment- to the Borderline he/she is being 'responsible' for his/her past behaviors.
The next phase of the Borderline Personality develops relatively quickly and soon he/she feels suddenly betrayed, hurt, etc. and seeks to victimize the estranged partner in any way he/she can Strangely enough, this deleterious behavior is always coupled with a need to be near or in constant contact with the estranged partner . While sending threats to the estranged partner, it is very common for the Borderline to begin to stalk his/her estranged partner in an effort to maintain contact. This effort is motivated by the excruciating fear that the Borderline will end up alone and anger that [the estranged partner] has put him/her in this position. We are finding, in many cases, that a great deal of stalking behavior is associated with Borderline or related personality disorders. Earlier research did not incorporate the Borderline Personality in stalking profiles; research now is beginning to focus on the Borderline in such disorders as Erotomania, etc.
Can a domestic violence felony be expunged in Texas?
You would have to consult an attorney. We think not. Added: I agree with the first answer. Because of the nature of the crime, I believe that Domestic Violence, is one of those offenses that may be non-expungible.
