Breakups

Face to face, but in the nicest way possible.

I'm assuming your ex is the one who ended the relationship with you? Sadly, you can't make someone love you. If your ex doesn't feel the same way you do, then there's nothing you can do. If it hurts you to spend time with this friend knowing that she/he is now invloved with your ex--the solution's simple (although it may not be one you like)--don't spend time with her/him. Move on with your life. Get out there and meet new people. Chances are, you will find someone else and the ex will no more than a distant memory.

well right there is really tuff cuz u have to find out if he still likes you cuz that will happen sometimes and like he might just want your attention but i don't think hes using you if he would of been using you you and him would still be going out and he wouldn't like you and you would have sex with him and then he would dump you that's using somebody or just simply cheating on you!

If I were in your position I would just stay friends with them you don't want to lose a best friend if you guys break up so I would just suggest being friends.

If there not acting the same no emotions on anything not around you as much not calling

I am deeply in love with my boyfriend of two years. He recently told me he wanted a break and then after a few weeks of mixed messages and a rollercoaster back and forth he ended our relationship and I am devastated.

We were very much in love with each other, it seemed like we had everything and I felt I could trust him absolutely. But I'm not sure why or how but something inside him clicked months ago and he started becoming increasingly self-destructive and depressed. He seemed confused and tortured. He started really drinking and drugging etc a lot and staying out all night. I was helpless to do anything except urge him to get help and considered leaving because of the drinking. I did not know at the time but he admitted that six months ago he had a one night stand with another woman, and since then he had pursued several others by sending flirty emails, texts etc.

I still love him, despite the terrible things he has done. I also know the beautiful side to him and believe human beings are complex and they can change if they want to, so I have told him that if he got help and was able to take responsibility for what he has done then its possible that I would forgive him and it wouldn't be too late to fix things if he acted now.

Of course I haven't been strong at all though and I'm embarassed to admit but I have also sobbed, begged, pleaded and tried convicing him not to break up with me and to stay together and go to counselling together. I was begging yesterday morning and it just made him adamant that he really wanted a break up. He said our relationship wasn't good enough, he wasn't happy, he just feels so relieved to be free, was happier without me around and said he didn't love me anymore and it was finished. I needed to be out of his life and concentrating on getting on with my own and finding a new boyfriend. Sounds pretty FINAL to me!

But then just like the mixed messages during our break he called me back half an hour later to say he did love me and that I am beautiful and special, but he is not sure if he loves me enough, is just very confused and in any event doesn't think if is capable of loving me and needs to be on his own. he said it just wasn't right to be together because he can't keep hurting me and was just going to keep on being a b&stard until he sorted himself out. He started crying on the phone and said he has realised he needs to do a lot of work on himself and is going to see a psychotherapist. He has said this several times recently, I think he is serious...but then again he has not acted on it yet just talked about it.

I am so very sad but also understand that the best thing I can do is just let him go and if he sorts himself out and wants to come back then he will. I have told him that I told him that I am going to go away on a trip overseas for a few months to help heal my heart and that he could meet me at the beach in a few months time if he changed his mind. He has said several times that he is really thinking about it.

What I am now wondering is whether I should hold out any hope. All his positive messages during our break came to nothing. And it would take a huge personal effort and financial expense to really get into serious counselling and decide to change.. and then come and find me somewhere overseas! Is it all just talk? Just a way to make himself feel better and less scared about the break up? Holding out false hope will be true torture for me, but I don't think I'm capable of not hoping.

Given all the above do you think he will come back to me?

UMM..of course not. he is tired of you and you don't deserve all that

get a life

Trust is absolutely fundamental to any sound relationship, and without honesty I don't see how there can be trust. It's unimportant whether the lying is 'compulsive' or whether it's malicious. Both kinds do a lot of serious damage to relationships. Stop, think and ask yourself how you're going to spend the rest of your life with someone who lies frequently and habitually. Joncey

No they broke up because she was too klingy and when he tried to be alone she would always ask him so many questions about what he was doing and where he was goin so he finally got tired of her and dumped her

Well I'm a guy my self but it would just make since to do a couple of the things I'm bout to say........

you should make her smile when she is sad... hold her when she needs held... tell her you love her if u do... be playful... you don't need to be rich to make some one happy... just be there for them... pick your battles... don't make a big deal out of nothing.... hold her hand.... kiss her... be good to her... you wont regret it... treat her better then u would yourself.


best of luck to you...

First you should find out if he's involved with anyone. If so back off. If not then try to remember some of the things that made you two interested in each other in the first place and rekindle those. If that isn't feasible then think of new things going on now and invite him to doone of those acitivities. Now don't forget you have to evaluate why you miss him. Is it a comfort thing or a real affection. Comfort get a pillow until you find a man that fits your needs, affection, then work really hard to show him that the two of you would be great together.

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Rather than play childish games, I would think it would be far better to be humble and apologize for your inconsiderate and rude behavior. Maybe if you could somehow convince her that you have grown up and matured a little, she might consider giving you another chance. On the other hand, if she doesn't trust you, don't be surprised if she wants to stay as far away as possible. she will feel very jealous and sad if you were her first man. Yes it is really over mayyyte

Because you had good memories together before things got bad. You both were once in love. No one likes to feel rejected and lose in love, but for most of us we can remember at least once in our lifetimes that one lost love. I know I can. Most of us go through a grieving period (not unlike the grieving for someone that is lost to death) because in a way your situation (and many like yours) is a source of death of a relationship. There is no length of time when it comes to grieving, but it's all up to you. You can sit there crying, listening to songs that you both listened too; hoping he comes back into your life or wondering what you did wrong and why he left. Sometimes people just fall out of love with their mate and it's nothing the mate did wrong. I hope soon that you realize just how strong you are and that there is NO ONE worth making you this sad for this long and you start circulating with your friends and then start dating again. Get mad and get going. Realize that he's not thinking of you and is out having fun, so get mad and decide that you are no longer going to sit around mourning for this guy and again, get out there and start having fun with your friends because there is that special someone out there. I look back (many moons ago) at different guys I use to think I loved with all my heart (at least 2) and realize I was young and didn't love them as much as I thought I did. If we hadn't broken up and I hadn't been stupid enough to get married to one of them like I did (ending up in divorce) I wouldn't have met and married the wonderful man I am married to now. Life has a way of twisting and turning, but thankfully most of the time things work out well even though we don't always like the path we have to take to get there.

You would really have to discuss how you feel with him and see if this would be an option. Also, you will also have to willing to trust him as well and leave the past in the past - this would be a new relationship and not trying to live the way you once did with this person. Sometimes new beginnings mean if you let it things can be wonderful and better.

It means he has no interest in talking to you or having any contact with you. It is best to move on at this point and let him be.

You have to be the judge of this and it depends if you broke up with this person or they broke up with you. It's always worth a try if one or both of you feel you've made a mistake. If the other person broke up and gave reasons why they were leaving then it's best to move on.

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In most cases yes it's over, but there is a small percentage where the ex comes back. The thing you have to ask yourself is 'do you want him back?' Be careful what you wish for. For now get out with friends and have fun and you are free to date whom you want so do so. You could well meet someone that treats you a lot better and that you are really in love with and he loves you back just as much. If you're my friend and you really care for me and I asked you the same question,what will your answer be? The truth which I just gave in the first post. Lying to friends to save their feelings is not being a true friend. If we love our friends as we should then we can't stand them to be hurt (it hurts us too or should) and we just want them to be happy so the honesty is the best policy.

Emotions and physical illness can be closely connected, and it sounds like your stomach problems are part of the grieving process that you are going through from breaking up with him. That is okay, but try to balance your life in other areas as you work through the grief. Work on refocusing and reprioritizing your life toward the future.

everyone has their own opinion on each sport. cheerleading is not considered a sport to some

it is really hard to get a person out of your life espacially when its an on and off relation ship, so i suggest you take the first and serious action and tell him in a serious tone that he is not welcomed to come back to your life and you are sick of playing games and do the action,refuse to see him,or talk to him,and any kind of contact..if he/she asks for another last chance,just remember how many last chances you have given!

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I really do feel for you! maybe because you thought you could change him? every girl wants to be the one to change a bad boy but when you realize there's no changing him you feel crushed! the fact that he cheated on you has also affected you and you say he treated you badly when you were together so that has obviously led to you feeling depressed. The reason why to all of this is the simple fact that you loved him so much and for him to hurt you so badly really does hurt! you don't care all you want is for him to say he loves you and for you two to get back together, I know the feeling i went through it myself! it will take a lot of time for you to get through this but be strong. As i like to say a man worth crying over, wont make you cry.

I've had the same experience and believe me don't go back to your ex because it may sound harsh but they don't care about you. just try move on like I did, I'm not sure if you are male or female but when I finished with my guy, it was lonely but feel liberated not lonely. there are decent nice guys and girls out there.

She is a moody person that has a personality disorder or needs some bipolar drugs and is playing head games with you. Do your self a favor and just steer clear of this negative person and find more stable people to hang with.

I disagree with the above. Depending on how long ago you broke up, he/she may still be hurting. They may still have hope that the relationship can be saved so they're nice and when they see that they were wrong to hope, they get hurt and respond with anger.

Just realize you deserve someone who likes you, not someone who can't quite appreciate you. You will find that person, one day. This one wasn't just the right one. Love yourself! Just know that you shouldn't want to go out with someone that doesn't give you a chance. Plus, now you know that they're not worth liking anyway so you can get back to your life and even when you are ready start checking out other guys/girls (who might be way hotter!). Also, just asking someone out takes a lot of confidence, which you definitely have! That's great because most people don't have that and just sit around waiting for their crush to make the first move! Good luck!!!! =)
Well, you should take it easy for a few days. You should spend some time alone, go 2 the movies or shop or something! If you still are depressed after 2-3 days, u should go 2 talk w/ a parent or counselor or somebody. Remember, pain comes and goes, but happines iz always in your life if u look hard enough. :)