Abusive Relationships and Domestic Violence

This is a complex question and one you didn't give much info on. It depends on why your family is threatening and is it really threatening or is it concern regarding your choice of boyfriends? You have to be brutally honest with yourself and get those stars out of your eyes and look at your boyfriend. Is he a good guy and does he treat you right? If he loves you he shouldn't slap or hit you in any way, never stand you up on a date, never be disrespectful to you or your family. Is he secretive and never goes into the house to see your parents and honks outside to pick you up? A parent that cares really detests a guy that just screams up to the house, honks and never gives the girl's parents the respect of coming to the door and going inside simply to say hello. There is nothing wrong with him coming inside, waving and saying "Hi there Mr. & Mrs. Smith." It was like that in my day and nothing has changed much to this day. If I had a daughter you're darn rights I'd want to know who she was going out with and so would my husband. These are things parents don't like: A young man that speeds up to the door in his car, honks and waits outside while his girlfriend comes out to the car. Although opening the door for girlfriends these days is not quite a requirement it's nice, but if he doesn't have a smile on his face or a wave to you as you walk up to the car and has a sullen look on his face and tells you to hurry up and get in the car that doesn't sound like love to me. Parent's sometimes watch from the window! Dressed neatly. He could be in clean jeans and a T-shirt, or whatever fashion is in style (within reason) but if you are going somewhere very special he should be dressed for the occasion and if he isn't then you're in trouble! If he had any self esteem and he cared for you he wouldn't have to be told to do this. Tattoos and nose rings rarely cut it with parents, but it's the "in thing" now and if he has one or two your parents are going to have to realize this is no worse a fade than some of the ones we had in our day. I still don't get the tattoos and nose rings myself and as far as I'm concerned these kids that get those things done to their body missed the boat by 100 years and should have lived in parts of Africa where the culture did this to their bodies. This is not a new thing! Each to their own! Some of the nicest kids I know have rings somewhere on their body and it's the one in the eyebrow that makes me cringe only because I want to say "ouch!" LOL Parents love it when the young man is confident and parents know it's uncomfortable for their daughter's date to come inside because they have been through this themselves, but it's a right a parents has and it means the parent loves their daughter. Your boyfriend may be nervous, but it's a smart thing to do. He should be genuine about caring enough about you to want to meet your parents because you just never know if he could be their son-in-law one day. Parents enjoy their daughter's boyfriends joining in on a few special events in the family, so that gives your boyfriend big points. Remind your parents that you can't always judge a book by it's cover. Parents just love their kids so much and want to keep them as safe as they possibly can and sometimes they just get a little too over protective. I'd rather have parents like that than parents who never cared where I was. If you can honestly say this young man is a good person all the way around (your friends like him as well) then talk to your parents and don't yell or scream, but tell them you think they are unfair and what are their reasoning's for this. See if you can't meet them halfway. Ask them if you can ask him over for an evening so you can all sit down and talk and he can get to know them and vice-versa. Don't make it a long evening, but let them get to know each other slowly. Respect for your family and you are the issue here and I bet this guy isn't giving one ounce of respect. Many kids think they have their own little secret world and their parents know diddly about anything. I have a news flash .... most parent's do! We were kids once and drugs and alcohol were around then (although drugs weren't as prevalent as they are today.) We had peer pressure, parties, crashed parties, bad boyfriends or girlfriends, etc. We went to concerts where we nearly got trampled to death. We have heard the "F" word and much worse. We necked and sometimes we even had sex! Oh yeah! Can you imagine? We made mistakes, we always thought we were more mature than we actually were. We always thought our parents couldn't possibly understand how we felt and it seemed that especially our mothers seldom approved of the boyfriends daughters dated. Some of us snuck out to meet a boyfriend we knew our parent's didn't approve of, and some of us cheated on tests in school. Generations never really change. One thing most of us NEVER did, was talk to our parents with disrespect! WE DO KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON! Any kid out there that thinks they have the corner on the market of "cool" is so out of touch with reality and think they are fooling an adult is sooooooooooooo wrong! Have that talk and take it slow and cool. Good luck Marcy

It is not legal to move out of your parents home in Georgia until you are 18 years old. If you move out at 17 than you can be charged with a status offense. That is according to Georgia code § 15-11-2 which says that anyone under the age of 18 can be a status offender. Status offenses include things such as truancy, running away, and unruly behavior. When it says running away that means moving out of your parents house as well, because your parents will just go ahead and report you as a run away.

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It's a control game to see if you will beg him to talk to you and punish you for having the guts to stand up to them. The above poster is correct, but there are some abusive people that for a change are stunned when someone does stand up to them (especially their mate.) It's a sign to them they are losing control. If you think you've won, don't start blowing up balloons, because abusers will get even and be right back in your face and will make you pay dearly for this so-called weak moment the abuser feels they've had. They love control and don't like ANYONE rocking their boat.

The best way to kill the undead is to deastroy the brain, do it in almost anyeay possible, options are limited to the circumstances. Try to aviod hanf-to-hand combat at all costs. a rifle is your best bet, its acurate and it can pass clean through the skull.

after disatching the attacker burn it. but not near you or your party, due to fire control and harmful smoke.

Leave the house, go to a friends house and call the police they can arrest him for assult.

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It's never just one answer for an individual and there are different reasons for different people. Generally though, I think that fear of something is the only reason to stay in an abusive relationship or even just to keep it secret. Hiding the abuse helps to hide the fact that action needs to be taken to protect oneself against the abuser. If no one knows about it, you don't need to fix it. Maybe it's an attemtp to hide the relationship's problems from one's self. Maybe it's a fear of the unknown, a fear of ending the relationship, fear of starting over, fear of further abuse if the plan to leave the relationship fall apart, fear of opening oneself to a new relationship, fear of real intimacy...The woman may be threatened that something bad will happen to her or the kids if she tells anyone. I guess the list goes on an on. There may be a few reasons not having to do with fear at all too though, like needing to stay in order to have time to show the abuser that they are doing something wrong, or to prove that the woman/victim is strong enough to withstand the abuse. Maybe the woman also wants the outside world to view her life in a certain way, so she can't admit to anything less than perfect. There are so many reasons and they are as individual as the person and the circumstances (past and present).

According to a report by the Every Child Matters Education Fund, Kentucky has the highest child abuse death rate with more than 4 deaths per 100,000 children yearly and 41 deaths in 2007.

Other states with high child abuse death rates include South Dakota, Florida, Nebraska and Missouri.

Every year 3 million child abuse cases are reported in the United States.

You can't tell if a pathological liar is lying. They are sociopaths and have learned to mimic the behavior of truth. I know! I lived with one of the most skillful highly functioning and respected lying professionals for 27 years. He fooled me and everyone around him and was considered a trusted upstanding citizen by all and still holds a place of power in his community. If you asked most people what they thought of him they would sing his praises.

That depends on the type of abuse - emotional, physical, or sexual. For sexuakl abuse, it is most common between ages 11-14, but can happen well before that

This is me, person who posted the question. I want to stop, but I don't know how. I used to be the victim and now I am the "perp". When I was a victim, the therapist told my spouse I was codependent and it was hard as I had driven him to hurt me. He stopped after much effort and major relocations. Now I hurt him and hurt myself in the process, I feel awful that I became all the things I hated and dispised. I carry bruises from my own actions, I hurt people I love, I want to stop but I don't know how. It's from unrealistic expectations and inability to stop disturbing and obsessive thoughts about historical things that have no impact now. sigh.

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Every day, about four children die in the U.S. because of abuse or neglect, most of them babies or toddlers.

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Everyone plays games.

Its all about control. The best way to deal with it is to let them think they're in control and they will be happy and won't give you a hard time because they think they're in control.

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It dooms them to a life of abusive and unsatisfying relationships. It's far better to try to get close to the child while he or she is still young enough to attach to the guardian. Then, when they least expect it, the guardian should smack the kid around and yell nasty things, especially in public places like Wal-Mart. The gratification will be huge, and people will get a good first impression of the guardian's parenting style. Surely, the guardian will be asked to write a book and appear on Oprah to give insider tips on messing up a kid's life.

losing someone you love or care about, not being able to do something you really want to do that's really important or that you like,having to do something that you don't want to do that's disturbing, bad, or embarrassing and then doing them.

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Tertiary means "third". Tertiary victimization means that another person, besides the immediate victim, was vicitmized as the result of the perpetrator's actions.

For example: A drunk driver kills a father of four kids in an auto accident. The father is the immediate victim. His wife is the secondary victim because she's now left with the entire responsibility of supporting the children. The four kids are tertiary victims because they suffer the impact of the loss of their father's support AND now must take on some of the responsibilities to help their mother, financially or otherwise, provide for the family.

It's not the alcoholic that enjoys hurting their loved ones, it's the alcohol itself. This is because alcohol doesn't let you think clearly. It blurs their senses, not allowing them to realize what they have done until they become sober. If there is an alcoholic in your life that is hurting you or someone you know in anyway, encourage that person to go to an alcoholics support group, if they are not already. If possible, start to remove bottles or containers of alcoholic beverages from the alcoholic's home. Don't remove too many at once; this my result in someone getting hurt. Try sitting down with them once they are no longer under the influence, and explain why what they did was hurtful to others, and how it made that person or those people feel. Give them something to think about, something to mull over. This may seem very hard to do, but you can do more than you think. Get others involved, too. Together, you can make a humongous difference. Good luck!

First I want to congratulate you for asking this question. Few people with this problem actually recognise it. We spend so much time hearing from people who have been abused, but hear little from the people who have difficulty restraining their emotions. For that reason I have had difficulty finding resources for you. There must be something out there!

The usual route through the medical profession would be a referral to a psychiatrist, who may provide medications to reduce mood swings. They may provide councelling directly, but would be more likely to refer you to a councellor. A councellor would probably spent time with you on a one-to-one basis, until you feel confortable dealing with the situation. Finally, they may be able to refer you to a group session with other people with similar problems. This may be the most effective approach because you will be able relate well to other people who have experienced the same emotions.

Look on the back of your insurance card. Many have a special 1-800 number (like an anonymous hotline) to request help with "behavioral services" or "psychiatric help". Usually, if you call these numbers they put you in touch with a councellor who can talk about your options.

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hitting and pushing

while the above are abusive acts they are just the tip of the iceburg.

an abusive act can be anything from calling names, to shoving, hitting, controlling behavior, and manipulation, if someone is forcing to do something you dont want to do, even if it is something as simple as not wearing certain clothing, or seeing certain people, or if they put there hands on you in any way they are all types of abuse. Physical abuse is hitting and shoving, mental abuse is far more complex and unfortunetly in my opinion much more prevalent, if you feel you are being abused odds are you are and you should remove yourself from the situation at once.