0
Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
8,665 Questions
What are examples of appreciative listening from men?
when he appreciates listening to you make him a sandwich
Stay out of it! If the both of you girls are living together then have a talk with your girlfriend and tell her to deal with her ex and he's to stop calling on your house phone. It appears she instigates it by talking to him and that just encourages him even more. You can get "Caller ID" and if you see it's him (or your girlfriend does) then let the phone ring. If she persists on talking to him you have two options ... have her get her own private phone (or have him call her on her cell phone) or ask her leave. Put the ball in her park!
What does is mean when a person says ya no doubt?
They are agreeing with you and saying that there is 'no doubt' to what you are saying.
Well, one way is when he stops calling you. Also when he doesnt pay any attention to you. Well, if he does break up with you than can always have another boyfriend
MORE TO THE QUESTION We havnt seen each other because this is school break and he isn't being mean but our conversations werent like they used to be...we would say we miss each and how important the other person is but now it is about his past...is he trying to tell me his past or back off?
What are the Differences between estranged separated and divorced?
estranged means separated from the spouse [no longer living with the spoue]
separated means staying apart [neither living together nor connected]
divorced means offcial ending of marriage by the court of law
Was Carol McCain drinking when she had her accident in 1969?
Seeing how that was FORTY years ago, it may be difficult to know.
What year did Prince Andrew and Sarah split up?
The Duke and Duchess of York appeared to have a happy marriage and presented a united front during the late 1980s. The Duchess was seen as a breath of fresh air in the context of the stuffy royal protocol surrounding the Royal Family. However, underneath there were problems in the marriage, largely involving the fact that the Duke of York was frequently away on Navy business and the relentless, often critical, media attention focussed on the Duchess. On 19 March 1992, the Duke and Duchess announced their plans to separate. It was an amicable parting, and the decision was made by the Duke and Duchess alone. Some months after their separation in 1992, pictures of the Duchess appeared in the British tabloid press, showing her in compromising positions with her financial advisor, the American John Bryan. This effectively ended any hopes of a reconciliation and did nothing to diminish the extent to which the Duchess was being targeted by the tabloid media. The Duke and Duchess of York divorced on 30 May 1996
Of course you can always sue. The question here is, can you show that it is untrue, and that these rumors are truly damaging? Has this kept you from getting a job, for example? Is he spreading these rumors to people in your neighborhood or your child's school? Is he making these statements to the child? Unfortunately, the burden of proof is on you, and these things can be elusive when it comes down to court. Do you have people willing to testify against him? Are they willing to take time off work without pay for depositions, etc? It really comes down to cost/benefit - is it worth the cost in time, expense, emotions, etc (which you could lose) to pursue this? If you have deep pockets and are willing to sacrifice those things even if the suit doesn't pan out for you, then go ahead. If money is tight, you have a long road ahead...
yes tell her..
atleast save another girl from him and let her know his basic character
yes tell her..
atleast save another girl from him and let her know his basic character
What does it mean if your ex boyfriend texts you out of nowhere and again stop texting you?
- It is difficult to know what your ex boyfriend is feeling when he texts you and then stops. He could be just lonely; curious to see if you'll take the bait and text him back or, he could still love you and is trying to get back with you. You should try to get in touch with him and meet somewhere and talk things out and if he does not want to get back together with you again then tell him to stop contacting you.
I suppose that she doesn't feel like she is in denial. At this point, the baby is in her life and it is her choice. All you can do is what you have done--asked her to carry it to term. Have you offered to raise it too??
You dont.
If your girlfriend of boyfriend has broken up with you, you're probably looking for a way to get her/him back. But most people have no idea how to do this, so rather than attracting your old love back to them, they keep pushing them away. To help all those heart-broken lovers, Rachel Wolings has created a comprehensive online audio course entitled 'Get Back Together Now'.
The first thing that Rachel explains in her course is that the thing that brought you and your lover together in the first place still exists. Even though it may seem like all the chemistry has long gone disappear, you are still the same person that she/he fell in love with. Inside the GetBackTogetherNow course you'll learn how to use this fact, so you can start rebuilding your relationship.
As Rachel Wolings explains, the main reason for most breakups is lack of communication and that's what you'll have to work on. You'll learn how to listen, both to your lover and to yourself. This way you'll not only get her/him back, but your relationship will be stronger than ever.
The simple fact is that the classic tricks and techniques you might've heard about don't work. You can't trick somebody into being with you. It doesn't work this way. That is why with Get Back Together Now you'll get a comprehensive, easy-to-understand plan that you can follow that will reshape your whole relationship. Your lover will get back with you because she/he will want to. And that's the way it should be.
to learn more go to
Why do you feel the need to prove yourself to an ex? Did you do something wrong? If so, it must have been really horrible if you could make the one that loved you leave you. If this is the case then you need to think about making some changes so you don't repeat the same mistakes (that should be your focus not your ex). You can't win back an ex and shouldn't even try. If your ex made a mistake, let them make that decision, it's the ex's decision to make, not yours. If you are a good person its your ex's loss. If you have some issues that he/she couldn't deal with, than he/she didn't love you enough to be in the relationship to begin with. If you do have some issues that could effect future relationships get some counseling so you can prevent another heartbreaker. You may have grown up in a dysfunctional home and it prevents you from stepping away from dysfunction in the present. Not all is lost if you stay off the bumpy roads.
answerplay hard to get. act like you dont want him back. move on with your life and hang out with friends. dont be a snob to him or anything. if he says hi to you, say hi back but act like you want to be just friends. guys get turned on by this for some reason. just dont be immature about it and stick your nose up at him. act as if it were an aquaintance you say hi to every now and then. be casual.
You know what, just pray!!!!! It works. It has worked for me and it will for you. Just pray to Jesus to take the matters in His hands and He will change things for you... Trust me, and be happy dear!
I really like the above answer....I have taken those exact same words and placed them on a photo and used it as wallpaper on my computer.
(thank you to original author)
Every time I sit down now, I'm reminded to ask for god's help.
Why or how did they get lost? See if you can at least talk to that person. Maybe it's at least worth a mature effort to find out and by being humble. The worst that could happen is that you get a solid answer and possibly learn more about what happened or yourself or even the other person.
Also, maybe there is still a chance after some time apart but you can't assume anything until you've played all the cards you possibly can.
If this is a really good thing that you both thought you were on to, take a chance, find out. If you love that person, it's worth it. Better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all. Take a chance...then you'll feel at least a better sense of knowing you did all YOU could. That's all you can do.
Well at the moment im trying to figure that out myself but to win someone's heart back you have to remind them in some way why they ever liked you in the first place. Also this could be risky either you'll be rejected badly or you might win their heart. What you have to do is make saw they know how much you love them. At least you'll never be regretting not going after them and not knowing what could have happened. please make saw you always respect you're self and make saw you really like this person before you put yourself on the line.Good luck:)
Without fail, the best way to win back someone's heart seems to be the hardest thing to do...Move on with life because feelings can't be forced into someone. They may begin to feel pity, but not true feelings. Cries for their love and persistence to let them know how much they are loved simply comes across as desperate and annoying to them. BUT...the moment a persons life begins to move on with friends, family, career, they will go from undesirable to irresistible. Let's face it, rejection stinks in so many ways. Sadly, when the rejector does not want the rejected, the rejected wants them EVEN more. Well, same goes the other way. When the rejected stops wanting the rejector, they want them. Hope this helps. It is NOT easy, but as bad as it hurts, (and it hurts really really bad for a while) eventually, letting go can be a BEAUTIFUL thing!
I'm experiencing the same situation, but at the moment I'm busy playing my cards. My advise: Forget about your pride for a moment and try to get into contact with the person. Just like Gina said "at least try" play your cards the right way. How you play them, that's up to you but be sure you now the person well. Most important is that YOU TRY. If he/she rejects you than you know for sure its time to move on.
Hope it will work out for you, if not for me. Good look!
Basically the moving on with life and forgetting about it works 101%. Talking from experience, pretend you aren't interseted, and they'll come running. It never fails. Dont go back at their first attempt!!!!!! Give them time. Make them sweat. Be seen enjoying life. They'll will come running!!
The fact is you can;t. Unless the other person realizes what a big mistake they made by losing you then there's probably an end at sight. I'm sorry to say that. After you break someone's heart its either quick fixing or not fixing at all.
Like if she asked for space maybe you can give her some time for herself and let her relize what she's doing is the right way, remeber"If you lover her set her free if she comes back it was meant to be" Goddluck, Robert
It is best to levae some relationships in the past.
Read below:
Stalkers and the Borderline Personality
The Borderline Personality
In recent years psychologists have learned about and done case studies on a new personality disorder which the DSM-III-R classifies as an Axis II disorder- the Borderline Personality . This classification includes such personality disorders as the Anti-social Personality, the Histrionic Personality and the Narcissistic Personality. Several psychologists (including myself) diagonosed my stalker as afflicted with the Borderline Personality. Characteristic of the Borderline (derived from research done by Kreisman & Straus, 1989) are:
a shaky sense of identity
sudden, violent outbursts
oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection
brief, turbulent love affairs
frequent periods of intense depression
eating disorders, drug abuse, and other self-destructive tendencies
an irrational fear of abandonment and an inability to be alone
Not much research has been done on the Borderline Personality, and for many years it was difficult to diagnose- and to treat. A Borderline often feels as though his/her life is marked with a distinctive emptiness; a void in which a relationship often acts to fill. Many times the Borderline is a victim of an early dysfunctional family situation and/or emotional/physical abuse by those he/she trusted early on in childhood.
The Borderline is psychotic , in the original, psychological meaning of the term: he/she is not in control and not in touch with reality. To the Borderline, a softly spoken word of advice can be construed as a threat on his/her emotional stability. An outsider's viewpoint that the Borderline is not in touch with reality often ends in a bitter and irrational dissassociation from the outsider on the part of the Borderline. Often, the Borderline ends up very much alone and victim to his/her disillusions.
The Borderline stalker is very apt to see his/her actions as perfectly justified; he/she has paranoid disillusions which support these-often with disturbing frequency. The Borderline often has brief love affairs which end abruptly, turbulently and leave the Borderline with enhanced feelings of self-hatred, self-doubt and a fear that is not often experienced by rational people. When the Borderline's relationships turn sour, the Borderline often begins to, at first, harass the estranged partner with unnecessary apologies and/or apologetic behavior (i.e. letters of apology 'from the heart', flowers delivered at one's place of employment, early morning weeping phonecalls, etc.). However, the Borderline does not construe his/her behavior as harassment- to the Borderline he/she is being 'responsible' for his/her past behaviors.
The next phase of the Borderline Personality develops relatively quickly and soon he/she feels suddenly betrayed, hurt, etc. and seeks to victimize the estranged partner in any way he/she can Strangely enough, this deleterious behavior is always coupled with a need to be near or in constant contact with the estranged partner . While sending threats to the estranged partner, it is very common for the Borderline to begin to stalk his/her estranged partner in an effort to maintain contact. This effort is motivated by the excruciating fear that the Borderline will end up alone and anger that [the estranged partner] has put him/her in this position. We are finding, in many cases, that a great deal of stalking behavior is associated with Borderline or related personality disorders. Earlier research did not incorporate the Borderline Personality in stalking profiles; research now is beginning to focus on the Borderline in such disorders as Erotomania, etc.
lsn from just getting in to this site that means it well be really hard getting her/him back nobody can help you to get back someone you lost noone know her/him more than you do deply inside you you know how but you wont be able to find it until you really regret that and you know what this person means to you. but because were here to help i know some ways call her after midnight where you are truly guilty and tell her what you well miss about her tell her true things,things that you only shared with her not with all you have been with and tell her who well do me this or that but bring it from youre heart and as you start talking you well find millions of things to say and the sun well rise and you still didnt finish by the time you finish she/he well at least feel guilty or or maybe cry. NOTE:MAKE IT FROM YOURE HEART
Just forget about it. When I got my heart broken I didn't understand the sitaution, but now that I've broken someone else's heart I see how it works. It sucks to be on either side, but if someone doesn't want you anymore that's just the way that it is. There is no point trying to win someone back, because there is always someone else out there who is better.
I've been on both sides of the coin. Recently, I was with someone for a year, she wanted to get engaged, and I couldn't commit. We broke up and she was devasted but I was fine. Then we got back together 8 months later, I missed her and she wanted to date. We fought a lot, possibly from the latent anger she held for me, some anger she had in general and for my own ego and selfishness. So after 6 months, she broke it off completely. I would love to have her back. I see many things now that I couldn't see while dating. I am amazed how depressed I have felt this time, when truly the first time I wasn't down very much.
But to win her back is impossible to do from my actions. She, and she alone, would have to desire to open communication back up. I cannot control nor influence her in anyway.
The best advice, in my humble opinion, is to address your own faults and baggage, see what made the relationship fail, accept yourself as human, try to forgive the past (forgive them and forgive yourself) and move towards your new life one day at a time. Move towards creating the best you. A healthy, happy, successful, balanced you.
There are times I am very sad about her (even while going out with attractive new people). Yet, when I'm out living my life, there is a lot less sadness. The more you live, the less you miss. If, over time, the person contacts you again, then you can see where your life is. You may not want them back at all. Or maybe both of you are in a healthier, less-dependent place and can discuss your relationship in a more rational, honest way.
Rejection hurts. But how we process rejection, how long we allow ourselves to hangon, how much we address our own dysfunctions...that is what is important to build a life of happiness.
ANSWERThis is an easy 1. People always want what they can't have, therefore if they can't have you they will want you more! Guys love the chase so you give them that. You always leave them hanging! Take a note of this, it's mothers wisdom. When I eventually took on board what she was saying i realised that it really does work!! I have never had so many men chasing me. I also learnt that my mother had 7 proposals in her youth, all through using this simple trick. If you need more advice im more than willing 2 explain in a greater depth
Question
i dont know if im supposed to write this on here but i need to know whats going on if anyone can help me i have a boyfriend im pregnant and were always argueing all he wants is to be in control he wants me to do this he wants me to do that and i do it ive changed alot for him and i made a mistake i took back my exboyfriend but i regret and i learnt my lesson he has nothing but little slutty girls on his bebo(computer site) and if i have one guy ob there he will freeek he wont take them off for me and he keeps adding and adding them on like it doesnt bother me then he comes home after work talking about the girls at work like i want to know ..... please help me
Question
Me n my gf broke up about 3 months ago. i still like her alot still to this day. after she broke up with me the next day she told me she wanted to get back with me. i tried everything for a month and a half n as i was tryn she started talkin to this other guy. then after a month and a half she told me she didnt like me n it felt like i wasted a month and a half. i was rude to her at times but now i am extra nice bc i want to try to get her back. it seems like whatever i do i cant get her back. she likes this other guy that baarely calls her n sees her unlike me i call her n talk to her everyday n see her everyday. i dont kno y she doesnt see what im doing and wat the other guy is doing. im just tired of trying so hard n ending up with nothing. i dont kno wat to do. i have tried to back off n call her less but she gets mad because i dont call her as much. im so confused can some one please help me with my problem. thanks
SOME PEOPLE HAVE NO FEELINGS OF LOVE LIKE MOST PEOPLE HAVE,SOME LIKE MY EX WITH A NARCISSISTIC DISORDER HAD AND HAS FASES OF VALUATION AND THEN DEVALUATION,IS ALL ABOUT TAKING WHAT THEY NEED,AND THEN THEY TOTALLY CUT YOU OFF,NO CALLS ,NO EMAILS,EXCEPT IF THEY WANT TO REMEMBER THEY ARE STILL IN POWER,IS ALL ABOUT CONTROL,IS VERY TERRIBLE,I LOST MY OWN SELF,I THOUGHT IT WAS MY FAULT,NOW I KNOW WHAT IT IS,BUT I STILL FEEL SADNESS ABOUT EVERYTHING,I FEEL USED,REJECTED AND MY SELF ESTEEM IS DAMAGED! SO LOOK FOR THE SIGNS,PUSH AND PULL GAMES,THE SILENT TREATMENT,TWISTING AROUND THE FACTS,NEVER TAKEN RESPONSABILITY FOR THEIR ACTS,NEVER SATISFIED WITH WHAT YOU DO\1 IS VERY SAD AND FRUSTRATING! IF YOU ARE EXPERIENCING THIS,GET OUT AS FAST AS YOU CAN,I DIDI BUT A BIT LATE,NOW I AM FIGHTING TO RECOVER!
Well for me, I thought i had just found my best friend,the someone i could and would of spent the rest of my life with, I met her in January and in may, she told me a huge lie and ended up well long story short she closed the door on me..i have tried to contact her,but nothing.. i don't know how someone can tell you all along how much you mean to them and your the best thing that ever happened to them,and then just quit contacting me..? i guess for me i would just wish she would let me know she is ok,and then i would feel much better,but everyday is a struggle as i try to get over this..for me i can never be angry or mad at her for anything she did before we met or even for what she did now..she has left her mark with me and i will never forget her.
Whether she actually killed your son or just threatened to is the same thing as far as your relationship is concerned. She destroyed it the second she said it and doesn't deserve you.
I would recommend getting some expert help - on the plus side you are reaching out and trying to find out what to do. I think though that as a pregnancy is involved that getting some more individual help will be required. Reaching out and asking for help or advice is an important first step though.
Do not see the person as an enemy. See him/her as yourself, and move on.
I take it you've had this conversation with him before and he wasn't listening then. Sometimes the truth hurts and he obviously didn't like what you had to say about his drinking. Good for you! At least you cared enough to talk to him and the rest is up to him. It's not uncommon for young men to drink be it modestly or, on weekends getting drunk. However, if they are argumentative, fighting with their buddies or with you all the time then the drinker has a problem. You can't make anyone do something they don't want to do. He has to go down this road himself. Hopefully, he'll mature and get interested in other things besides bashing beer cans on his forehead and belching. I think you care a lot even though he dumped you, you want to help him. Move on! He wants a drinking partner or people around him with the same habit(s) he has. You don't provide that for him and whatever you do, don't join him in his little adventure because you are the one that will get hurt. Perhaps in time, he may see you were right and come back, but if he doesn't, consider yourself lucky and move on to someone that cares about you more than booze. Good luck hon Marcy
What does it mean when a stranger asks for a shockalockaboomboom?
They might just be kidding around, because of the ridiculousness of the word. But if they're not, then by the sound of it, and please remember I'm only guessing, it is probably either cocaine, a single pill (probably an upper), a blowjob, or sex in general.
I think what that means is he misses contact with you. Why don't you ask him?
AnswerWhat does he say when he calls. If there are silences and pauses, why waste your time on the phone. Ask him why he calls, if there is anything he needs to talk about or get resolved. Maybe he hasn't gotten over the relationship and still needs something to hold on to, literally, the phone and your voice. I would say keep it short and sweet. Nothing wrong with remaining friends but there is something wrong with the silence.How can I tell that my baby daddy has moved on to someone new?
when he doesnt care for you or your baby anymore.
Sounds like his pride is getting in the way. Or he is afraid that his friends will make fun of him.
Lets face it, humans are drones that buy into whatever the mass of society deems acceptable. As a whole, humans are very judgemental unless it has to do with them and they think its ok. Someone, somewhere is always going to have something to say. If as you say your both in love and of age then have a wonderful time together. In this day and age with all the sick, vile people out in the world, the greed and hate, I think that anytime there is a bit of love, more power to you. Good luck and have fun....... Because it's not normal. And people always have problems with dealing with unique situations. It's no more complicated than that...
I love you and I want this marriage to work. You are the most important thing to me. You are my everything. Please help me to make this marriage work. I can't bear to lose you.
Answer
The only thing you can do at this point in time is try to convince her to get a trial separation. This means you are still married, can date other people, but it gives you both time to work out things and perhaps rekindle love again. No promises!
You have to be honest with yourself and face yourself in the mirror as to whether you were 95% of the reason the marriage didn't work and then get tough with yourself and realize what your weak points are in the marriage:
Staying out too late with the guys
Working too late most nights
Forgetting important dates such as anniversaries, birthdays, etc.
If you have kids, not taking quality time with them and giving your wife a break
Seldom taking your wife out for a nice dinner, dancing or socializing with other friends.
Having a "ME" attitude and thinking of only yourself such as what makes you happy and not the magic words "WHAT MAKES BOTH OF YOU HAPPY." Sometimes there are things you will have to do with your wife you may not get all fuzzy and excited over, but hey, that's part of marriage and she has to share the same way.
Drinking or drugs (not accusing you here) but if this is a problem that is a sure way to end a marriage and end your life.
When was the last time you paid her a compliment without being lead into it by her?
Mental abuse such as calling her "fat, lazy, homely, not a good wife or mother, etc."
Physical abuse such as pushing, shoving, controlling where she goes and being sure she doesn't become too successful in her life.
I could go on and on, and I know women are complicated, but then again men are too "simple" and the two usually don't jive on the same thought patterns.
Obviously your wife has had enough and she is looking to fullfill a void in her life. If you can talk her into a trial serparation perhaps the distance between you both will work for both of you.
If she is to blame for most of it then it's time to face up to it and let her go. You can't make someone love you.
Good luck Marcy
AnswerGet the book "Love must be tough" by James Dobson AnswerIf all else fails -- I mean ALL here. If all else fails, all you can do is say, "See ya." AnswerSometimes, you just say no. No, you will not give them a divorce. No, you do not believe in no fault divorce. No, the vows you took are sacred and final. No, I will do whatever it takes, spend every dime I have to save my marriage. (This assumes no adultery and no physical abuse.)How do you handle a separation with children involved while still living under the same roof?
You be civil and honest with one another. If there are issues to be discussed that don't involve the children you speak privately, no yelling. The ones that do involve them directly, about school and activities, then you sit as a family and decide. Everyone should feel they have a voice. Depending on the childrens ages, no need to put adult pressure on them. I know first hand it can work, I separated and divorced my ex and lived together for 6 years, our son now at 13 tells us how much that has made him see that not all parents fight and argue. We went about are business of running a house, paying bills fairly, taking on children duties fairly and being sure to have family time together still. We actually focused so much on that that we didnt even date outside the relationship and got remarried, 3 years ago, it made us stronger. Now not every couple will remarry but you just don't have to argue and be nasty, the only thing that really should change after you separate or divorce is your living arrangements, the part of bringing up the kids together is the first order of business and being civil to each other through it all makes for a easier transition for all. The two of you may move on with your lives, privately, but that can work too, the kids will see how strong and determined the two of you are and were to keep the family together and thank you forever.
Because their mind is somewhere else. There is a lot of separation aside from physical. Your times are off, nothing is really constant for awhile. Be honest with them, when you are able to calm down. They may not even really understand how hurtful a simple comment can make, and what kind of domino effect can take place. Bring it up. Tell them how you feel.
Is it legal to video record someone without consent in Idaho?
I'm not certain about Idaho in particular, but I know that most places it is legal if the person is in public. You do have to be careful about not edging into "Stalking" territory though. If you are making a short video or something that requires filming in a public place and you are really worried about it either ask the person or blur their face.
