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No, he was back at home drinking domestic beer and watching the game!

Certainly, and no warrant is needes- the blood is in any case ( Devalved) before embalming can take place- the human system normally has 6 Quarts in circulaton so there is no shortage of specimens- and no search warrant is needed on a dead person. This is routine in suspected Drunk-driving homicides.

Well there are several ways to see when your car was built. The best way is to find out where in the car the manufacturer put the build sheet (could be in the door cover or under the drivers seat, even under the carpet); ask the dealer.

Your dealer can tell you almost as much as the build sheet if you get friendly with the parts counter at the dealership and give them the VIN.

You cant necessarily find out what day the car was built using the VIN but you can see the year, the plant it was built at and all kinds of information... Just look up the breakdown of how to read a VIN number. Its kinda fun, you can look at any VIN number and know all kinds of info about the car if you simply know how to read a VIN... Learned that in the Honda PACT program..

On some vehicles there is a sticker on the driver door where the door latches. It should let you know what month and year the vehicle was built. If you have a 2009 it may have a sticker with a June- 2008 year built. So you are getting a 2009 but it may have been built 6 to 8 months earlier.

Simple like I said before. Look up the breakdown on how to read a VIN number. The point of a VIN is not to tell if a car has been stolen, it gives a wide array of information, such as when, where, what trim level, all that good stuff on the car. Enjoi

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That is not necessarily true and is specific to your vehicle's manufacturer. I work at a CDJ dealer and I can see what the date and even the day of the week a car was built on. I can view what the car is, manufacturing information, features, paint code, recall information, service tips, and etc. I know Ford and GM are similar in set up as well. However, we used to sell Suzuki and the only thing a VIN number told us was generally a model, paint code, and maybe a production date.

Some vehicle have a date code on a label on the drivers door jamb. It is set up as MM/DD/Hour. There will also be a year listed.

Sorry to hear that, but it sounds like he finds himself more important than his family. Not only that, but he is being very selfish. Don't feel bad. Move along though it's hard. My ex-=wife walked out after 23 years and left her kids and grandson and has never looked back. She is too much of a coward to face any of us. So, why do people do stupid stuff like that? I think they think there's always someone or something better out there, but they learn there's not.

I recently replaced the entire backyard fence at my home. To determine an accurate linear footage, measure the perimeter of the area to be fenced. Fence posts for both wood and chain link fences are placed eight feet apart. Don't forget to add one extra at the start of the fence and on both sides of any gate. Determine the number of gates into the fenced area.

Any reputable fence contractor will provide an on-site estimate ,at no charge, of linear footage, materials required including (gates, posts, staining, old fence haul-off), and installation costs separately in writing. I created my own estimate to test against and better understand vendor estimates. I spoke with 4 vendors. My experience shows that costs roughly run half for labor, half for materials. The arduousness of the job helped justify for me the cost of labor.

The crew took 2 days to erect a galvanized post, 2x4 treated lumber supporting overlapping cedar fence, complete with two gates. I stained it and saved $200. Were I to do it again, I'd let them stain it

Either the creditor did not file a judgment within the prescribed time or the suit was dismissed because it had errors, was filed in the wrong venue, etc.

It is an act of control and disrespect for your personal boundaries and, as such, yes, it is abusive.

It all depends on the situation. If you are really angry or have been drinking then he should take the keys. If he is abusive verbally and you just want to get away from him, yes it is a form of abuse if he tries to control you in this manner. Have a 2nd set of keys made for the car and use them if you have to get away from him.

In short yes it is a form of mental/emotional abuse. However, why is he doing it, are you sure you are not verbally/mentally/emotionally abusing him first, I mean 'why does he get mad in the first place'? I'm not taking sides here with your husband but I am tyring to look at it from a man's perspective. You have to be sure you are not the initial problem, if you can be certain that you are not then he has problems. I think you need to read a lot of the FAQs on this site and try to build a mental picture of how you, yourself act in his company, above all you have to stay calm and collected when talking to an abuser, do not give them an opportunity to 'jump' at you with abusive comments or any other form of abuse. You might want to study a communication concept known as 'Tranactional Analysis'. Once you get into it it is really very easy and it allows you to talk to people in a way that will avoid confrontation and abusers will get confused because they don't understand the feedback signals from you because of the way you present them. It allows you to be seen by them as being unconquerable.

you can drink water without breathing 5 seconds before you drink it or you can jump up and down which according to ancient history, it will help you get taller.

Best bet is to contact your local government because license requirements, if there are any, vary greatly. In Florida for example, some counties require a license and others do not. There are also other stipulations and requirements are differ from county to county. Then there also might be a state law but the county should be aware of that.

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yes, but you have to work out really hard to get there.

cheap depends on how good you shop,ect. email me if you need more help. NO, I dont sell any lifts. LOL

The amount you need.

It's pointless asking for less than you need, because it's not going to do any good, and asking for more than you need increases the likelihood you'll get turned down and also means you'll be paying interest on money you didn't need.

If you know how much you need right now but think you might need more later, you can ask for a line of credit for the difference. This basically amounts to getting yourself pre-approved for the larger loan so that it's available on fairly short notice if you need it, but if you wind up not needing it you won't have to pay interest on it.

im Missouri it is 10 days after repo, the title can be filed for repo by institution.

You must have some identifying information. With even the most minor identifying information it is possible to locate nearly anyone. As there are too many variables to list all the possible ways to do this, and a number of the means for doing so are industry secrets, it would be best for you to contact a skiptracer in that person's home town. A skiptracer is like a private investigator, but works more typically on location of people only.

simply tell them this....."why would'nt you want me to have a cell phone? what if im in danger? or kidnapped? or hurt? how would i get help?"

if they love you they will get you at the least a prepaid phone

Yes. Most likely he will just act as if nothing is wrong. Sometimes they seem to just BELIEVE their own lies to a point where they truly feel justified. Yes, they are very convincing liars. I have found the N in my life is only this way to people he CAN lie to. New people. He lies to them and about them. Some people that have known him for years have no idea he is this way, most likely because they know if he's lying about work and such, but he can lie to them about OTHER things while being his false self and they believe him because they have no idea of the monster inside of him. I watched him destroy a friend of his and when I tried to call him on his lies in front of who he had lied to it was me who looked the fool. He lied to them in front of my face and they believed him. I have seen him have entire sections of his life that he made up to impresss people. He would not tell a single truth at times. He will hurt someone and discard them while living as if he never knew them! It's always their fault! If he does something he has an excuse and he blames others, while never taking any blame himself! He is incapable of it. If he is confronted he will avoid it in any way he can. I constantly watch him lie with this Smug arrogance and i think there is NO way someone is believing this crap, but they DO! They are very convincing but they may believe what they are saying and convinced themselves of it. They will NEVER tell the truth. They will NEVER admit to being wrong. While most of us would admit our mistakes, they will only continue the lies until the day they die. Don't forget they believe they are smarter than anyone they know and normally they are very wrong but it all depends on who they have lied to and about what but it's normal for them to lie and act as if they had never. They are smarter and better in their minds and I wouldn't hesitate to say they act invincible. Nikki Absolutely! My N lies about everything and then walks around like he's totally not at fault! If you call him on his lies he will make excuses and he actually believes he's right. It doesn't matter if it's true or not, what he says is how it is, and that's all there is to it. He has no fear because he's so arrogant and sure he's right and more important. It's really sad. They are such delusional people. My N lied and lied and lied and lied.... then lied a bit more after his life was in flames and heading toward the sh*tter.... so sure was he that lying would restore his equilibrium. He's still lying to everyone around him. He tells his parents that I'm mad over multiple affairs. At first he just told them that I was mad over ONE affair (that I'd made up and that I was lying about his choking me and his emotional terrorism and threats of leaving me destitute with two little children.) They believed him, btw. He tells his business associates I'm divorcing him bc his work schedule was so bad... then sends half naked pics of himself and boasts about how attractive he still is for a 40 year old man.... would they like to see the other half of the picture? BUSINESS ASSOCIATES! And after I knew about the affair! When I told him the only way to try saving the marriage was to come COMPLETELY clean... he lied then lied again. Over and over. I filed for divorce. That got his attentiobn but he still lied and lied. I got furiouse! Finally.... some of the truth began trickling out and it's still trickeling, though I'm done even caring to hear about it. I don't think he can tell the truth.... bc there's no truth in him. It's not personal ::shrug:: He doesn't know what lies he's told and he's forgotten what truth is. Tremusan

If the puddle was too deep some water may have gotten into the exhaust system. Worst case scenario would result in the vehicle experiencing a hydrolock in which the engine will seize due to water. Other wise the water will eventually exit the exhaust and return to normal.

go to this link and find out about the good and bad of TICKS: http://www.smm.org/buzz/museum/ticks

Disciplinary intervention, for the illegal activities of a person suffering from NPD, including but not limited to the domestic abuse symptoms of this disorder, handled by a trained domestic violence officer, limiting the sufferers illegal behaviour, with co operation from the narcissists intimate family (zero tolerance), without disrupting the integrity of the sufferers family unit, is regarded by 'front line' experts in domestic violence to be the most responsible and effective course of action.

This type of early intervention is the necessary first step in any treatment protocol, to protect everyone involved, before any other treatment options are considered.

Experts disagree on whether Pathological narcissism - or, more precisely, NPD - can be "cured". But most of the behaviors associated with NPD can be modified so that the narcissist can live a happy and productive life.

Group Therapies

Narcissists are notoriously unsuitable for collaborative efforts of any kind, let alone group therapy. They immediately size up others as potential Sources of Narcissistic Supply � or potential competitors. They idealise the first (suppliers) and devalue the latter (competitors). This, obviously, is not very conducive to group therapy.

Moreover, the dynamic of the group is bound to reflect the interactions of its members. Narcissists are individualists. They regard coalitions with disdain and contempt. The need to resort to team work, to adhere to group rules, to succumb to a moderator, and to honour and respect the other members as equals - is perceived by them to be humiliating and degrading (a contemptible weakness). Thus, a group containing one or more narcissists is likely to fluctuate between short-term, very small size, coalitions (based on "superiority" and contempt) and outbreaks (acting outs) of rage and coercion.

Some think that adult narcissists can rarely be "cured", where some scholars think otherwise. Still, the earlier the therapeutic intervention, the better the prognosis. A correct diagnosis and a proper mix of treatment modalities in early adolescence guarantees success without relapse in anywhere between one third and one half the cases. Additionally, ageing ameliorates or even vanquishes some antisocial behaviors.

In their seminal tome, "Personality Disorders in Modern Life" (New York, John Wiley & Sons, 2000), Theodore Millon and Roger Davis write (p. 308):

"Most narcissists strongly resist psychotherapy. For those who choose to remain in therapy, there are several pitfalls that are difficult to avoid ... Interpretation and even general assessment are often difficult to accomplish..."

The third edition of the "Oxford Textbook of Psychiatry" (Oxford, Oxford University Press, reprinted 2000), cautions (p. 128):

"... (P)eople cannot change their natures, but can only change their situations. There has been some progress in finding ways of effecting small changes in disorders of personality, but management still consists largely of helping the person to find a way of life that conflicts less with his character ... Whatever treatment is used, aims should be modest and considerable time should be allowed to achieve them."

The fourth edition of the authoritative "Review of General Psychiatry" (London, Prentice-Hall International, 1995), says (p. 309):

"(People with personality disorders) ... cause resentment and possibly even alienation and burnout in the healthcare professionals who treat them ... (p. 318) Long-term psychoanalytic psychotherapy and psychoanalysis have been attempted with (narcissists), although their use has been controversial."

The reason narcissism is under-reported and healing over-stated is that therapists are being fooled by smart narcissists. Most narcissists are expert manipulators and they learn how to deceive their therapists.

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Here are some hard facts:

There are gradations and shades of narcissism. The difference between two narcissists can be great. The existence of grandiosity and empathy or lack thereof are not minor variations. They are serious predictors of future dynamics. The prognosis is much better if they do exist. There are cases of spontaneous healing and of "short-term NPD" [see Gunderson's and Roningstam work, 1996].

The prognosis for a classical NPD case (grandiosity, lack of empathy and all) is decidedly not good as far as long-term, lasting, and complete healing. Moreover, narcissists are intensely disliked by therapists.

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Side effects, co-morbid disorders (such as Obsessive-Compulsive behaviors) and some aspects of NPD (the dysphorias, the paranoiac dimensions, the outcomes of the sense of entitlement, the pathological lying) can be modified (using talk therapy and, depending on the problem, medication). these are not short-term or complete solutions � but some of them do have long-term effects.

The DSM is a billing and administration oriented diagnostic tool. It is intended to "tidy" up the psychiatrist's desk. The Personality Disorders are ill demarcated. The differential diagnoses are vaguely defined. There are some cultural biases and judgments [see the diagnostic criteria of the Schizotypal PD]. The result is sizeable confusion and multiple diagnoses ("co-morbidity"). NPD was introduced to the DSM in 1980 [DSM-III].

There isn't enough research to substantiate any view or hypothesis about NPD. Future DSM editions may abolish it altogether within the framework of a cluster or a single "personality disorder" category. As it is, the difference between HPD, BPD, AsPD, and NPD is, to my mind, rather blurred. When we ask: "Can NPD be healed?" we need to realise that we don't know for sure what is NPD and what constitutes long-term healing in the case of an NPD. There are those who seriously claim that NPD is a cultural disease with a societal determinant.

Narcissists in Therapy

In therapy, the general idea is to create the conditions for the True Self to resume its growth: safety, predictability, justice, love and acceptance - a mirroring and holding environment. Therapy is supposed to provide these conditions of nurturance and the guidance necessary to achieve these goals (through transference, cognitive re-labelling or other methods). The narcissist must learn that his past experiences are not laws of nature, that not all adults are abusive, that relationships can be nurturing and supportive.

Most therapists try to co-opt the narcissist's inflated ego (False Self) and defenses. They compliment the narcissist, challenging him to prove his omnipotence by overcoming his disorder. They appeal to his quest for perfection, brilliance, and eternal love - and his paranoid tendencies - in an attempt to get rid of counterproductive, self-defeating, and dysfunctional behaviour patterns.

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By stroking the narcissist's grandiosity, they hope to modify or counter cognitive deficits, thinking errors, and the narcissist's victim-stance. They contract with the narcissist to alter his conduct. Some even go to the extent of medicalizing the disorder, attributing it to a hereditary or biochemical origin and thus "absolving" the narcissist from guilt and responsibility and freeing his mental resources to concentrate on the therapy.

Confronting the narcissist head on and engaging in power politics ("I am cleverer", "My will should prevail", and so on) is decidedly unhelpful and could lead to rage attacks and a deepening of the narcissist's persecutory delusions, bred by his humiliation in the therapeutic setting.

Successes have been reported by applying 12-step techniques (as modified for patients suffering from the Antisocial Personality Disorder), and with treatment modalities as diverse as NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming), Schema Therapy, and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization).

But, whatever the type of talk therapy, the narcissist devalues the therapist. His internal dialogue is: "I know best, I know it all, the therapist is less intelligent than I, I can't afford the top level therapists who are the only ones qualified to treat me (as my equals, needless to say), I am actually a therapist myself�"

A litany of self-delusion and fantastic grandiosity (really, defenses and resistances): "He (my therapist) should be my colleague, in certain respects it is he who should accept my professional authority, why won't he be my friend, after all I can use the lingo (psycho-babble) even better than he does? It's us (him and me) against a hostile and ignorant world (follies-a-deux)�"

Then there is: "Just who does he think he is, asking me all these questions? What are his professional credentials? I am a success and he is a nobody therapist in a dingy office, he is trying to negate my uniqueness, he is an authority figure, I hate him, I will show him, I will humiliate him, prove him ignorant, have his licence revoked (transference). Actually, he is pitiable, a zero, a failure�"

And this is only in the first three sessions of the therapy. This abusive internal dialogue becomes more vituperative and pejorative as therapy progresses.

Narcissists generally are averse to receiving medication. Resorting to medicines is an implied admission that something is wrong. Narcissists are control freaks. Additionally, many of them believe that medication is the "great equaliser" � it will make them lose their uniqueness, superiority and so on. That is unless they can convincingly present the act of taking their medicines as "heroism", a part of a daring enterprise of self-exploration, a distinguishing feature and so on.

They often claim that the medicine affects them differently than it does other people, or that they have discovered a new, exciting way of using it, or that they are part of someone's (usually themselves) learning curve ("part of a new approach to dosage", "part of a new cocktail which holds great promise"). Narcissists must dramatise their lives to feel worthy and special. Aut nihil aut unique � either be special or don't be at all. Narcissists are drama queens.

Very much like in the physical world, change is brought about only through incredible powers of torsion and breakage. Only when the narcissist's elasticity gives way, only when he is wounded by his own intransigence � only then is there hope.

It takes nothing less than a real crisis. Ennui is not enough.

Narcissists can change just like anyone else. Psychoanalysts who say narcissists can�t change don�t live in the real world. (I love it when psychoanalysts spend their entire life pretending to study people�s inner workings when all they really do is read Freud. Freud was a real creep. Psychoanalysts declare that narcissists are screwed up, and that there�s no hope of them ever changing because they fell in love with themselves in infancy and did not inappropriately fall in love sexually with their mothers. Huh? Gee, that�s one good way to make a narcissist feel great about his �true self� and to change his ways.)

Even though I don�t have a doctorate in Freud�s frightening material, I�ve formulated my own theory on how a narcissist can improve himself.

To formulate any therapy, one has to understand how the brain thinks.

In general, people form initial impressions or assumptions about the world. Whatever information people receive after forming an assumption either reinforces that assumption or forces them to completely revise that initial assumption. Assumptions are formed from primary social networks and wishful thinking.

Narcissists grew up in an environment where they were ignored unless they performed. Most of the time, they were ignored. But when they performed, their parents gave them intense attention. They clapped and exclaimed �great job�. Narcissists didn�t get love and attention for just �hanging out� and acting normal in their family.

For instance, I was completely ignored until I played the piano. When I played the piano, my mom would clap her hands and say �Wow, that was terrific!� When I went to my friend�s house though, my friend�s parents would constantly talk to her in regular conversations, and they would just hang out and watch TV together. My friend didn�t have to jump through hoops to get the attention she needed. She didn�t have to be super funny or super amazing at the piano.

Thus, I, and other narcissists, formed assumptions early in life that (1) you have to be great to be loved; you have to perform to be loved; (2) you can�t just be normal and be loved; acting normal is boring; boring people are ignored (3) love is intense attention and awe; love occurs when people are jumping up and down shouting �Hooray! Good job Johnny!� (4) You are loved because one time, people clapped their hands after you performed (5) since you are loved, you must be great and are entitled to many things; (6) Other people act normal. Since normal people don�t get attention, they must be unloved, and hence, inferior.

Many of these assumptions need to be revised for a narcissist to heal. These are some skills a narcissist can work on to be better adapted to the world: 1. Become aware of behavior: The first step to healing is to just be aware of the faulty assumptions you made early in life and the pattern of behaviors that developed based on those faulty assumptions. These behaviors might not �work for you� later in life. I believe every narcissist should list specific examples in his life where his behavior was based on faulty assumptions and become aware of his current behavior. He should list different situations where he feels entitled. He should list different things he does to impress people. He should list different examples where he dissed someone or devalued someone. Being aware of behavior is the first painful step, and is half the battle. 2. Start loving the true self: A narcissist needs to start loving his true self. A narcissist isn�t a bad and stupid person. A narcissist simply formed logical assumptions like everyone else based on an environment that wasn�t completely normal. A narcissist just needs to realize that the outside world operates on different assumptions, and that different behavior is rewarded in the real world. A narcissist can relax a little bit. Love is not about being the best circus performer. Love is more about not being such a jack ass. A narcissist can be loved just by being normal. Plus, it may be easier for the narcissist to get love because he probably picked up some cool skills by aiming high early in life. 3. Learn social skills: A narcissist would benefit from picking up a few social skills to make friends. His social skills are underdeveloped because his parents did not interact with him in a normal social manner. His parents rarely sat down to carry on a conversation with him. There are different sets of social skills � seduction skills, skills in keeping a spouse or girlfriend, job interviewing skills, skills in making friends, skills in keeping friends, public speaking skills, assertiveness skills, etc. Usually, a narcissist has no problem seducing the opposite sex initially with their intense attention-getting stares and boasting. And sometimes he has no problem getting his first job because of his performance and boasting skills. But a narcissist has problems making friends and keeping friends. That includes initializing a conversation (not trying to �get noticed�, but to notice someone else). It also includes being interested in whatever small talk another person utters. Friendships require time and investment. Social skills can be developed just like any other types of skills. Someone isn�t a bad person because his social skills aren�t honed. 4. Give and accept love: A narcissist should accept love from a normal person. Not attention and awe. A narcissist should also painfully start giving love to a normal person. A narcissist should initialize a friendship with a new person or initialize sex with his spouse out of the blue. 5. Stop feeling entitled: A narcissist feels entitled to a $200,000 a year job simply because he made good grades in third grade. A narcissist feels entitled to a wife centering her life around him because he paid attention to her for a few seconds at the beginning of the relationship and because he is better looking than her (he picked her out because she was homely). A narcissist doesn�t realize that having a good job is a �verb� and having a good relationship is a �verb�. One has to give something to get something. 6. Surround yourself with healthy people: This assumption applies especially to the inverse narcissist. Healthy people don�t have pissing contests all the time. Healthy people have fun and like each other no matter what their class rank was. 7. Realize the appropriate time to boast: Boasting is OK in a job interview. Boasting is OK when slipped in during a time of courtship. Boasting does not work in making friends. 8. Examine goals: One bonus to a narcissist is that he�s a natural goal-setter. But the narcissist could benefit if he sets his goal to �serve as a good spouse� or �serve as a good lawyer�. Not to �impress the socks off those people�. 9. Become interested in the outside world: Narcissists sometimes lack experience in the outside world. They grew up in this closed, isolated, insane small world. They sometimes have these real bizarre amazing skills that let them get attention, but lack normal skills and habits � like reading the paper, talking to people, people watching, etc. They spend their free time sometimes on becoming even more amazing at a bizarre skill instead of learning about the outside world and becoming normal.

A narcissist can improve his behavior just like anyone else with a little knowledge and a lot of work. The people who are in most need of complex therapy are the psychoanalysts who believe that narcissists should have desired sex with their mothers.

Maybe, following a big narcissitic injury, the narcissict will become aggressive and hurt those who he loves the most. When the dust settles, the narcissist will look at the outcome and realise that hes not the victim anymore, since he has hurt the ones around him who were the most vulnerable to him, just like he was hurt earlier. This can be freeing, but it comes at the expense of inflicting narcissism to others...

Also, it helps to be less hard on yourself, be gentle with yourself. okay :) ?

Cause you never clean your car so therefore it reaks of pollenated worm juice

Flame in French is flamme. Flame in Spanish is la llama. Flame in Italian is fiamma. Flame is Greek is floga.

make sure all your food is cooked and dont eat raw meat

You don't need to worry because he will protect you if he really loves you.

The LENDER is responsible.