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Breakups
It takes two to make it work, but only one to break it up. This is the place to ask questions about the pain, healing, and possible solutions to relationship break-ups.
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Can police pull someone over if they are not breaking any laws?
Yes they can. Indeed police set up check points ( road-blocks) from time to time where I live. However, after they stop you and see your license is valid, they can not do much else unless there is evidence of violations of some kind.
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This is known as False Arrest/Imprisonment, if they do not have 'probable cause' to pull you over.
If they do not have reason to believe you were involved in some sort of Criminal Activity, they are violating your rights as a citizen. They can not pull you over just to check if you are breaking a law. They can set up check points to check out everyone on the roadway, but they can not just pull individual cars over for inspection/interrogation without first having probable cause to stop you.
What does it mean when your wife of 7 years says that she loves you but is not in love with you?
Problem is routine life style.. When you get too comfortable with marriage, you tend to drift away from what made her fall in love with you in the first place. Women crave that attention, love, romance, and suprises from their man! Try to think of the first time you guys went out on a date.. Think of the things you did to make her fall in love with you... Now, how often do you do things to impress her? Good luck! The above poster gave you excellent advice. How about planning a special romantic holiday together! Most wives complain their husbands ignore them, treat them like an old slipper, don't listen to them and aren't romantic enough. All of us good through dry spots in our marriage, but it can be fixed. You want her ... fight to keep her! Talk to her about where she would like to go on a holiday and do it.
How can you be friends with your ex when you are both still in love?
I'm guessing that you are "both still in love" with each other, right? If so, that's a tough one because if you are both truly still in love, why are you ex's? For whatever reason you have broken up, the best answer is Time. You need time to get over the love relationship part of each other and Time to find the friendship part of each other. You also have to ask yourself, is this person someone I want to keep in my life even if I can't have a love relationship with them? If so, you'll need to step back and get over the hurt of the breakup and let Time show you the friendship. If you can't see yourself being friends with this person, then maybe the Love you thought you had is more anger over the breakup. Maybe you should consider being more than friends again if youre both still in love.
When is a wedding band moved from the left hand to the right hand in the US for a man?
If your married then seperate/divorce then you will remove your wedding ring if you want. Some people will continue to wear their rings on their ring finger (left) but there is no moving to the right unless you just decide on your own to wear in on your right. While married you wear your wedding band on your left finger - if for some reason that relationships dissolves then you do whatever it is you want with your wedding band. There is no ritual, law or special practice of "moving" your ring in the US/CAN - (other religions or countries may practice this but I wouldn't know as I have never heard of this)
It's all boils down to how you really feel about her. I just recently moved out of state for college, and my boyfriend didn't want me to leave either. But he loves me enough to respect my choice and be happy for me, rather than try to make me second guess myself. If you care for your girlfriend you will support her in decision and try to be there for her in any way possible (considering the distance between you).
Well I think that you should just tell your girlfriend exactly how you feel and suggest a college closer so she can be with you. And she might not be wanting to leave the relationship, maybe she justs wants a good college educaion so she can become what she wants and then maybe make good money and raise a great family with you. And if she thinks that you love her then she might also be doing this to see if you really do and if you would wait on her to do what she wants to do. Mainly all you need to do is sit down with her and talk about. Sorry if this doenst help.
let your girlfriend live, its up to her what she wants to do in life... not you long distance relationships work too.
Don't you think you're being a little selfish?
Tell her that it will be very painful for you she leave you. Also tell her you will love her very truly even she leave you forever. Let her go anywhere she wants. That will make her fellings for you stronger if she really loves you. Jim jaman
Before my boyfriend and I started going out, I knew he was leaving the following fall. Then I was just like "oh OK." Now he is in the process of making it all come true. I don't want to be far from him just as he doesn't from me, but i can't expect him to fail and settle. I want him happy. After he leaves we won't be together for 3yrs. We will see what happens . So let your girlfriend follow your dreams, no matter what the issue is. If you were meant to be together, you will and survive a tough part of each others life.
You should leave her because long distance never works. Sorry to be so blunt, but you will both be better off for it!
There's nothing you can do. You can tell her how you feel but its ultimately her choice what she does with her life. If she's going out of state then she isn't worth your time ,and you should find someone who values you AND lives in the same town as you.
Let her leave. At that age you have dreams, and you want to be able to follow them. If you stop her from following her dreams, she'll resent you for it. Don't be selfish with your feelings... which is exactly what is posing the problem. If you love her, distance will not matter.
You should find another girlfriend.
All the likely viewpoints have been given including my own, so suffice it to say that I wish you the best of luck and she's lucky to have you.
Sorry, but let her go. She has her own life, and deserves to live it, with or without you. You can still keep in touch, but you probably won't have a romantic relationship anymore.
You should be happy she's going someplace she wants to go. I know it's hard, but just suck it up. Just keep in touch with email or something - you'll be more like best friends than anything else, but it's better than nothing.
I know how you feel (even though I am a woman.) If you love her try to be happy for her. If you make her stay then you're crushing her dreams of advancing herself in life. You can do many things. If possible try going to the same college, and if you can't do that then try to visit her at least every 3 months and keep in contact by email and phone. The relationship may just work out and just because she's leaving for college doesn't mean she doesn't want to retain the relationship you now have. Give it a shot! Don't give up get.
s"> sI can really understand how you fell. I know its not easy but ti be honest its a part of life, of growing up. And im sure that if you really love each other your relationship will last for a long t9ime and you could always go and see her if you realllly wanted too. REMEMBER ITS NOT FOREVER :-)Listen, you was born alone. Never get so attached ,that you loose control of yourself . Sometimes you bend over backwards for someone and it really isn't worth it. There are far too many girls in the word to let one girl drive you crazy. If one girl doesn't work out ,find someone that has more consideration for you feelings. In this case the reality of life is people grow up and move on. The girl is just doing what she has to do. Let life play itself out.
I think you should go for it. If you like someone there is no point in denying yourself that.
Is there any love quiz you can take to see if you are in love?
Taking a quiz will not tell you if you love someone. Only you can tell that. The quiz must be about you and your partner, no one else knows you as you do. Think about it yourself, how you feel, what you would do, important also is what you would not do.
Such an online quiz is for fun and not a true reflection of YOUR feelings no matter what the authors of the quiz claim.
I just discovered my husband is a narcissist. I left when he got really weird. I have 2 children. I have been researching like crazy, buying books, internet, any thing I can get my hands on. If I were you, you and your wife should research, she should be able to tell when she starts reading how severe he is. Read carefully what it says about how they are with children. Try to figure out the cause of his problem. In my case my husband is SEVERE. He is somatic. I believe his father had it, and may have been sexually abusive. He has been stalking, calling, threating me to sending presents. I have had him arrested, and have called child services to take away his visitation. I hope to keep myself and my children away from him forever. Find out how bad he is and go from there. If severe I would recommend moving, take away his visitation, get away as fast as you can. And don't look back.
Now that you have a child with your husband, it is time to grow up and stop being selfish. For the sake of the child, keep your family together. You are having feelings for your ex because you are lacking something in your marraige. Fix the marraige and help it grow. Go on weekly dates according to what you can afford, have more sex, talk more, play board games and work on your relationship with your husband. Any free time you have, fill it with something so you are not thinking about your ex. It will pass.
only if u think its necessary
Can you date other people if you are separated and contemplating divorce?
Yes. Chances are that the relationship was broken long before the separation. There are not laws that would prevent a person from dating. However it might have an impact on the outcome of the proceedings if either spouse decides to file for a dissolution of the marriage.
Why can't I stop sleeping with my ex girlfriend?
Maybe you just come into too much contact with her. My advice is to get away, and put some distance between you two.
What do you do when you have nothing left in life to care about?
suicide You have taken the first step...asking for help. I would suggest you find a good psychotherapist. Simple advice is not helpful in the long run. You need therapy, and you need to do it now. If you are contemplating suicide go to an emergency room or crisis clinic. In the meantime, try to do something you enjoy...going to a movie, exercise, talking to friends. Call a friend on the phone. Don't be alone. You can find meaning again...it may not be today or tomorrow...but you will find reasons to care in the future.
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Interpersonal relations are complex. Without going into a lot of discussion and having time to explore feelings and personalities, there is no way to answer such a troubling question. Could you possibly convince her to go to marriage counseling with you? Let her know that you are committed to the relationship and that you just want to find out what, if anything, can be done.
It's a tough one. I sincerely wish there were some kind of simple answer to what you describe, but there isn't.
A marriage counselor may not actually solve any problems, but a few sessions may help figure out what's wrong and at least give you some form of answer.
Good luck.
AnswerRedbeard gave you excellent advice, but I would also like to add that to complicate matters more if your wife is 40 plus, then it's possible she could be having perimenopause (hormonal changes) or be starting into menopause (also hormonal changes and this is the ceasing of a period.) Hormones believe it or not in especially women are a great deal of the reason why they can act strangely at times and that's why most wives or women in general don't know what to say to their spouse about the way they feel.
PERIMENOPAUSE/MENOPAUSE SYMPTOMS: Moodiness, happy one minute, angry or depressed the next. Hot flashes (she will complain of being either too hot or too cold.) She may have problems falling asleep and if she does sleep she is throwing the covers off one minute and pulling them back on because her body has cooled down. She may be depressed. She may often feel she looks just great and the next minute reduce herself to tears thinking she looks terrible. She will cry over nothing and can't explain why. She may pick on you and there isn't anything you can do that's right. If any of these sound familiar to you then PLEASE talk to your wife and see if she'll consider going in for a physical and having a hormone test done (blood test.) She may well rip your lower lip over your head, but hey, this is a marriage and it's worth saving! Make suggestions such as she could take night courses in something she likes, to even going to college for extra courses.
Most people know so little about what hormones can do (even men go through Andropause similar to women's menopause, but not as severe) and some women connect going into Perimenopause or Menopause as "your life is over and I'm just plain old and useless." I've been through it and can contest that life is far from over and I've never felt more freedom. I opted out on hormone therapy because long-term can cause breast cancer, heart attacks and blood clots. I went "Homeopathic and antidepressants for a short time and found ways to deal with some of the symptoms. Instead of hanging around the house I'd exercise (Tai Chi) go out with friends, took night school courses and realized the whole thing was about just another chapter in my life and I now had a chance to find out what talents I really had. I found out I was good at writing and was encouraged by many family and friends to continue on with it, which I did and also I am good at art (drawing.) I have had a few articles printed in our local papers, and I am writing a script at the present time. Whether it's accepted or not doesn't really matter because I think it's good. I do artwork for the Abused Women's Center and a Pet Network. I never had a chance before to tap into those talents because I was far too busy.
Have that talk with your wife. If she will not reason with you then see if she will consider a separation first and not a divorce. This may give her time to clear her mind and find out what she does want.
Good luck!
ask him why <-------------then what??? -then, judging from his answer youd have to decide, based on your knowledge of him and his reputation, whether hes really into you or just messing with your head..
Why are you good friends after breakup What does that mean?
It is good if you can stay communicative as it is mature and there is no need for hard feelings - there are going to be many people throughout our lives that we just don't connect with but that doesn't mean we can't be friends with them. It simply means that they don't see you as more than a friend but still enjoy your company.
when you meet someone you have been chatting with over the internet bring a friend or relative and have lunch or coffee somewhere where theres others around and chat for some time ask all your questions before returning home so you know a little about him, who cares if he really really likes you its do you click is the answer any guy will pretend to like any girl till he really gets to know her and finds out they arnt a match before its to late.
What is the law in Arkansas for evicting a former boyfriend from the girlfriends residence?
You should talk to either an attorney or the prosecuting attorney for your jurisdiction.
Is theft by deception a felony?
Theft by deception can be a felony offense. Theft by deception is when a person uses deception to get free services or property of another. Theft by deception is not the same thing as unintentionally writing a check for something and not having enough in the account to cover it.
Why do you feel you need him when you know it's over?
It could be to do with fear. Fear of being on your own if/when the relationship ends. Fear of not finding anyone else. Fear of having to create a life on your own. And if you've been single before, then a fear of having to go through all the dating game again. If you've had a long and loving relationship with this person then it could be about wanting someone you trust to lean on - ultimately that person was someone you trusted implicity so it's hard to let go of that habit. You'll find your way through.
That simple means she is thanking you for whatever it is you did - being polite.
How can you tell when someone is thinking about you?
- Look very closely at his facial expressions.
- He will look up or somewhere random.
- He will occasionaly look at you at stare like he wasn't staring at you.
- He will look dazed and unfocused.
He'll most likely stare at you a lot or stare at you and smile or try to get closer to you.
