Breakups

This will get messy, unfortunately. The good news is that you don't have to divorce because you were never married. The bad news is that your child will suffer from a broken home. Unless this guy is abusive, you should do whatever possible to stay together, get married and be a family for your child's sake. Don't give up now. More bad news, he will not walk away happy (they never do when there is a child involved). You will need to prepare to fight for your child and it is always ugly. In a perfect world of break-ups, the people lovingly give each other everything they want and you both walk away. You know this will not happen and there really is no civil way to break up. Im in agreement with the previous post.

They have a compulsive liars anonymous in Boston that you can attend. You can call a helpline for information about meetings.

You may marry the person you love depending on how old you are and how many people you have loved if this is your first love i am sure there will be plenty more but if you never stop loving the person if after you fight they might be the one for you :)

I know I let you down by telling you something that was not the truth and I apologize for that. I will never do that again and want to know how I can make it up to you and earn your trust back.

i didnt get to finish so this is the rest of it , i am at my witts end i dont know if he is even happy at all . why would he throw it in my face like that and now its went from many things to this that i am not working , i do though in a sence i watch my granddaughter while my son works , clean and do all household chores ,, and its not that i mind working but now i feel as though there is a condition to being married that is how he has made me feel , what should i do?

The issues about the environment. This process has really been proven to harm the environment and the people who live nearby.

* Your wife did not choose to be addicted to pain killers. You need to get to the bottom of this and find out what doctors are prescribing these medications to her. Then you should be the husband you should be and seek help for her. See a lawyer and see what the laws are in your State for committing your wife to rehab and getting sole custody of your children without divorce! You took the vows of marriage to be there for each other so now it's time you were! I have no doubt you have been through hell, but, what have you done to resolve this situation! Children are innocent and they only know one thing ... they love mom and dad! To just file for divorce without even trying to get help for your wife is cheating your wife, children and yourself out of a possible good marriage and a complete happy family. By seeing that lawyer and proving your wife is addicted to pain medications and is not capable of looking after the children this will give you the edge to control the safety of your children.

It sounds like he still wants to be friends. Are you up for just friendship with this guy? If you are then reply to his texts and be yourself but if you don't want that friendship then tell him how you truly feel. If you are curious as to why he is texting you, which I'm sure you are, then ask him about it in a nice way.

It could mean that she is slowly losing interest in your relationship or maybe she has been busy. You should really talk to her about where things stand between you two so you know whether to continue on or move on.

Being a long distance relationship, and the ever growing lack of communication. I hate to say, most of this is from experience. It sounds like she is either, #1 Pushing you away, #2 Loosing intrest, #3 Found someone else.

Talk to her about it, what your feeling, and ask her if she still feels the same, or different. Talk it out.

nononono, believe me this happened to me she does NOT like you anymore and she doesnt want to be with you but sms? that's like text.. are you like 8?

• Every male before taking Viagra should see their doctor and discuss if this is the best solution for their problem. All medications have side effects. If you have seen the doctor and have no heart problems; lung disorders, etc., then there should be no problem with you taking Viagra at 74.

yell at him It depends on what YOUR psyche needs. Do you need to be vindictive? If so, take whatever action makes you feel better. If you need to ridicule him/her, laugh and call him/her a moron as you hang up. If you think it would be best FOR YOU to not respond, then just hang up. Strong emotional reaction will convince him/her that you are hurt by this and it will give some of the more emotionally immature people a sense of gratification to know that he/she has hurt you. Your best bet, just ignore him/her and start going out with other people who are more interesting and more fun to be around. But next time you get into any kind of relationship, make sure the person is a little more emotionally mature. If you learn from this experience, perhaps you won't be put through the same thing again.

• Some men/women prefer to wear their wedding ring continuously while others will take the ring off during a separation so they are free to date others. It is up to the individual and it is not a requirement or a law that one must even wear a wedding ring.

• For some boyfriends or girlfriends texting too much by their mate can feel smothering to them and when two people date or go steady it is always wise to be a little mysterious and never let that person you care for know everything about you right away until you are sure you are compatible. Yes, you could still well have a chance with this girl, but meet with her face to face and stop texting her.

I think it is easier to build a relationship with short meetings, where you are actively doing something together. This keeps the time from becoming too focused on conversation and those deadly silences. A walk in a park or zoo, bowling, a concert, a fair, a board game, an outside movie--anything where you are not both passively attending to something else--will help build your comfort level together.

Below is a page that lists domestic violence hotlines, shelters and resources by state. Click on your state to view those in your area: http://www.letswrap.com/usadv/ It would be a good idea to get some counseling on this situation; many shelters and religious organizations provide free or low cost counseling. I would strongly suggest this if you have children---your kids will be affected by her behavior, even when it's not directed at them. Children are impacted by the abuse they witness between two adults. The most important thing to realize is that emotional abuse, like physical abuse, can both escalate and fluctuate over time. Your mother in law will not change her behavior, even if a police complaint was filed against her. Is your husband abusive to you or does he tolerate what is going on? If he is unwilling to acknowledge the behavior, he is ennabling the situation. The best thing you can do for yourself is to have as little contact with her as possible--even if it means not going to holidays or events where she will be present. Stand your ground on this matter. Do not try to pacify your mother in law--an abusive person sees this as submission and it does nothing to stop their actions. Do not argue or fight with her, either. Keep the focus on being healthy--eat right, get enough sleep, realize that this is *her* issue, not yours, and that you are not obligated to be in her company if she chooses to act this way.

All your boyfriend is trying to do is tell/show how much he loves and care for you, which i don't think is a bad thing. I can agree it might be annoying if he does it all the time, but i think you guys need to talk & work this thing out. I don't think its an issue so big that you have to break up..... unless if there is something else about him that you don't like.

All he is trying to do is make her jealous. You could be better looking then she is or you might not. He just wants to make her mad and want him back.

When people are under the influence of alcohol some of their inhibitions temporarily weaken; it's part of the loss of control. As a result, people may then say things that they otherwise would not. But I would never regard that as truthfulness. Alcoholics and other addicts often go to great lengths to try to deceive themselves and their families and friends about their addiction and/or its real extent. It can actually do both. Alcohol decreases your inhibitions which would make it easier to say things you wouldn't ordinarily be truthful about. For example with lowered inhibitions you might tell your friend how you really feel about their new rude boyfriend. But decreased inhibitions might cause you to be more free with exagerations or bragging about things that never happened or at least not in the exagerated way you portray it, i.e. maybe that two pound fish you caught last week would turn into a twenty pound fish etc.

He probably misses you and still wants to be friends or maybe he wants to be with you again.

Some victims bond with their abusers in what is known as "trauma bonding".

you are crazy. to think he could be a soul mate. a soul mate is a helper. an ex that is an abuser is probably in your life to help you get to the point where you will not need to repeat this cycle. a soul mate might not even be someone you hook up with permenately.

I don't think you are crazy. People can change if they really desire to do so. I personally have been emotionally abusive in my past relationships, which is why I am here. But I am seeing a therapist, and acknowledge the mistakes I have made. I am finally getting over the guilt of how badly I have treated my ex, and am finally beginning to believe that I am worthy of having a healthy relationship. If someone that you loved in the past has seeked help, and is trying to change so that they can treat others with the respect they deserve, do they not deserve a second chance? Maybe I am just hopeful for myself, but people can change. Perhaps I am crazy, but I am going to give him his space now and try to fix me, and maybe I will give him a call in a few months to slowly get to know each other again. I sincerely hope that he won't think it's crazy to believe that I turned myself around.

Your ex- abuser could be your soul mate only & I repeat only if he is actively in therapygetting treated and he or she has fully admitted & acknowledged that there is something wrong with them. If they don't show complete improvement they could be fakingit. Some abusers say they will go get help but they are just doing it so you can get off their backs and you will leave them alone and that is not sincere. The victim needs not to be fooled.

No, I don't think its crazy. In fact, after four years of deep emotional involvement with someone with NPD (who is not physically abusive) I am inclined to think the opposite - that abusive relationships are possibly the deepest sort of soul mate one could have. Why? Two reasons: first, such a relationship quite likely has its roots in a past life connection - hence the intensity. There are lessons that must be learnt, and the only way they will be learnt is if it is extremely difficult to walk away from the relationship. I have found that in my relationship my whole concept of myself has broadened and changed -also my understanding of human nature - especially its dark side, masculine and feminine within myself, and particularly my own shadow. I am also much stronger emotionally, and I have overcome many fears - although I have only been able to do this with the help of good and wise friends and good literature (eg Sam Vaknin and others), and the fact that I have had plenty of space in the relationship due to factors out of the control of the abuser. There is a great deal of love between us which serves to force us to slowly wake up to ourselves, making changes, and developing a little of that very old-fashioned quality: unconditional love. One must above all face and examine one's own vulnerability - its nature origins, and also work to proteect oneself. I have been fortunate in that I have been able to incorpotate my experiences into my spiritual path.

You know reading the answers to this questions makes me a little confuse because I, myself have been in a abusive relationship and I ask myself was/ or is he my soulmate even after what we have gone through. The difference is that he hasn't seeked any type of help and is trying to cover it up. Do I love him still? Yes, very much so, but I don't think he will change. I wish he would get some help because besides this, he has good ways about him. It's hard especially when you have given this person your all and that is what I did with him. We shared a lot. I am confuse as well and deep down don't think he will change. Do I think that your abuser is your soul mate???? Well, if he seek help and commits to it then maybe, but if he just keep doing it to you and then saying, "Sorry", then NO!!! He is not the one for you at all.

"Could your ex-abuser really be your soulmate or are you crazy for even thinking this?"

It depends on the circumstances.

take her to court. Beware the judge could just as easily rule in her favor, since both names are on the title.

When did Mikey zavala break up with yAri